Post # 1
I know that many vendors mark up when the word “wedding” is involved. Is it ever okay say ask for a quote for a “party” instead of a “wedding”?? How have you handled the situation. I’m having a budget wedding in southern California and I’m not yet sure about how to approach vendors for quotes. I also suck at negotiating but my Fiance is awesone at it. Any advice is appreciated thanks!
Post # 3
I thought about doing the same thing but what stopped me was a vendor contract that I actually helped write up for my previous employer. If someone came in and said they were having an “event” or “party” and we determined it was a wedding (via other vendors or their own words) we would change the price to reflect the wedding price. Because of that, I just tell people it’s a wedding and bite the bullet on the extra cost.
Post # 4
This is really interesting, I can’t wait to see what people have to say !
Post # 5
I let my Fiance call up vendors and do all the talking… he is MUCH better at negotiating than I am too!
@seahorsey: but after you sign a contract they can’t change the price on you right? Even if they’re going to add extra wedding services, you would have to agree to them first.
In any case though, this is a sticky situation. It sucks that a lot of things instantly become more pricey just because it’s a wedding, but would you really want angry vendors the day of when they do eventually find out it is a wedding? I’d just rely on negotiations to get a better price.
Post # 6
@DeathByDesign: yeah I was thinking about that. I don’t really want pissed off vendors either… Thanks for the input!
Post # 7
I think thats just plain dishonest. Plus I am sure the vendors have something in their contract to protect them. Be careful as something like this might void the contract entirely. What are you going to do on the day of, when they show up and its a wedding? What if it voids the contract and they just leave. If they have protected themself in their contract, legally they wont even have to give any of your money back since you gave fraudulent information to the vendor.
Post # 8
I think its all BS. They shouldn’t mark their prices up due to that word in the first place!
Post # 9
@tigermilk: The point of this post is out of curiosity and general advice. I have not yet asked for any quotes without saying it is for a wedding. I have heard others do this before and was curious of the outcome. Getting a quote for a 100 people for an event and getting a quote for 100 people for a wedding should be the same… but with the way prices get jacked up because it’s a wedding, I’d like to know why as well. It’s still business.
Post # 10
It depends on the kind of vendor, but in general I think it’s a bad idea. Yes, many vendors mark up their prices for weddings because they can, but a lot of the time there are other factors that make a wedding price a little higher. Also, they will probably find out, and some won’t work with you if they do. The only time I think this is OK is if you get the non-wedding price first, then tell them it’s for a wedding and if the price goes up you can ask them why. They may have good reasons.
Post # 11
I have the world’s most random job, and part of it is planning one large banquet a year. It’s an “appreciation event” for our volunteers, and I used or at least contacted many of the same vendors for my wedding. I’m pretty sure I was given standard wedding info packets, and never noticed markup for any apples to apples type things.
Post # 12
When I contacted our caterer by email I just asked is she was available on said date for a brunch for # of projected guests. We corresponded back a forth a couple of emails including some other questions, quote, and then she asked if it was for a wedding. Price didn’t change…. then we talked about booking and downpayment to officially reserve the date. =)
For our other vendors we knew all of them from church so they knew we were getting married and gave us a discounted rate b/c of so.
I don’t think it’s dishonest to ask for availability for dinner for # of guests without saying what kind of event it is… b/c really it shouldn’t matter.
Post # 13
@DaisyCakes: When I first started contacting vendors I used the word “party”. There were a few that tried to up their quotes once I met with them and told them it was a wedding (always tell them it is a wedding when you go to book them, it is just honest) and that is when I walked out the door. There are some vendors that will add in things for weddings so it is always good to check what any discrepancies might be from additions that you may or may not want.
Post # 14
I would be VERY careful, as that is not what you are paying for. they could easily say that the contract you signed is not for a wedding and force you to sign a new contract and you would be out your deposite. there is lots of legal verbage in contracts. i would be honest.
Post # 15
Thanks amnystik and tksjewelry… Yes, I’m trying to go about this a right way. I don’t consider myself a dishonest person and would never sign a contract as a knowingly fraudulent party (without disclosing that this is a wedding); however, I want the best price possible! I am awful at negotiation, but Fiance is awesome at it. I’m just very clueless when it comes to wedding planning/vendor booking so all the advice I can get is great! 🙂 I’m hoping to really “know my stuff” before signing contracts. I live in a pricey area- southern CA- so I really need to get the best deal possible for the budget wedding we’re planning.
Post # 16
I thought about doing this, but for the vendors I did end up using it didn’t make a difference – the prices we got were what was listed, or for services that would only be used for a wedding (ie. bouquets).
Do your research and shop around. A lot of vendors will work within your set budget if you let them know ahead of time.