Getting Ready Alone? Please Share Your Story!

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I haven’t gotten married yet so I can’t share a story, but would it be terribly horrible to fudge the time a little?  Tell them to show up at 6 or 7 (or whenever you would like them to be there) and then just say the makeup artist showed up early and you were anxious to start!

 

Post # 4
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4634 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I got ready alone! Well, with my mom.

I also have social anxiety and the mere thought of being with a group of people getting ready at the same time could send me into a tailspin. I like my personal space, I like timelines, and I like quiet. I also like things that are supposed to be about me, to be about me.. Hence the no bridal party..

It worked perfectly. I slept in, took a car service to get my hair done with my mom, grabbed lunch, drank champagne.. Got my make-up done and then got dressed. I’m normally a bit anxious, high strung, and a worrier but.. I was so calm and relaxed all day. Nerves started to hit me in the elevator on the way to do our first-look, otherwise it was the perfect arrangement for me.

ETA: Fudge your timeline a bit, or be honest and tell them you don’t want them to stop by because it makes you anxious. I went with the latter and only had to tell one person (my SIL) because who invites themselves to something they weren’t invited to anyways..

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by  KC-2722.
  • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by  KC-2722.
Post # 5
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

 

ClassicCorvette:  I got ready 100% alone. The salon opened just for me on a sunday to do my hair, it was literally me and my hairdresser. I left there to go to my make up artists house (who is a friend) and it was just us. I put on my dress and finishing touches and left for teh ceremony, ALONE. Honestly, i get super nervous and anxious and not having anyone there to stress me out was really relaxing. I highly reccomend it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I got ready alone – no one actually said anything about wanting to come by, so it wasn’t a big deal.  I walked over to the salon, got my hair and makeup done, walked home, had lunch with my fiance, and then put the dress on 🙂  Easy.

Post # 8
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1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

 

ClassicCorvette:  It was really awesome having lunch together – we were both afraid that in the hecticness of the wedding and wanting to see / talk to people, we might not eat enough at the reception so we wanted to make sure we’d had at least one real meal beforehand.  And he helped me zip my dress up so that was awesome – I needed help! 🙂  He didn’t want to know anything about the dress until the day of, but we took photos before the ceremony to get them out of the way so having lunch / getting ready together was basically an extension of that, and it was nice to have that time together just the two of us.

Our wedding was small – 44 people including us – we had seen our moms and brothers the night before (we had a “pre-wedding dinner” at a pizza place, not a rehearsal since there was nothing to rehearse).  I thought one or both of our moms might want to see us before the ceremony, but they didn’t ask so that was good with me.  Our families are small and we all love each other, but we are also New Englanders who give each other space so that might have played into it.

Post # 9
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105 posts
Blushing bee

ClassicCorvette:  Is it possible to arrange timeline so your mother and MIL are getting their hair and make-up done while you are getting ready? Then they’ll be physically unable to be in your room. Advice on fudging timeline is also good, so you will be done with your hair and makeup at the time anyone can pop in your room. I always feel so ugly in the process of hairstyling and applying make-up, so I understand why you wouldn’t like anyone who could make snide comments to be there.

 

Post # 10
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1178 posts
Bumble bee

ClassicCorvette:  I got ready alone. I had a morning wedding too, so my hair person came at 5am, then makeup at 6, then photographer at 7. My cousin, who I’m very close with, came around 7:30a to take pictures with me. Maybe you could just tell your mother what time you want her to come. If you haven’t told her already, don’t reveal the timeline or if anyone else will be with you. Just say, “Hey mom, morning of the wedding, be at my house/hotel room at 8am.”

Post # 12
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My fi and I wanted to avoid all kinda of drama and decided to have a planned elopement, just the two of us. we will be in nyc (we live in canada). So I’ll probly be doing everything alone. Thought about maybe just getting ready with FI, spending as much time together as possible. But also kind of like the sounds of having him with that surprised look when I’m all put together. Can’t decide what to do. Glad to hear other bees will be getting ready alone! 

Post # 13
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1178 posts
Bumble bee

ClassicCorvette:  my ceremony was at 10am. I showered and washed my hair the night before so u could have more sleep. 🙂  5am am was not overkill at all. It was just the right amount of time. 

 

 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by  Xu.
Post # 14
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

ClassicCorvette:  It makes me sad that your mom is mean to you and would be that way on your wedding day. I think you would be best off not mentioning anything unless she brings up seeing you get ready, then explain that you want a calm relaxed morning alone to clear your head (or whatever). Phrase it in such a way that it’s not about rejecting her but instead about having time alone before you go into the spotlight.

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