Getting Ready Dilemma – Afraid to hurt feelings!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think that is more than fine.  I would just word it that you are getting your make-up done with X at O time, and that if they are interested in coming they can set up an appt. with another make-up artist for that time too since she is booked.  No need to share that she’s doing your other family members; I would completely understand that one person can only do so many people. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

just tell your BM that a family member is doing your hair/mu and also doing your immediate family of mom and sisters.

and however the do their makeup is on their own.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I think that is totally ok. You are still giving them options. I got my makeup and hair done in the salon, then went back to the room my BMs had gotten ready in to get dressed with them and such. No one’s feelings were hurt.

Post # 9
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are your other bridesmaids getting their hair done at the same salon?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@sparklerunner:  We’ll can you turn it into that?  Can they all come to the salon or where is she doing the make-up for you and the others? 

I guess I’m just confused.  Even if you would’ve invited everyone from the start to come get their make-up done, you would need more than one artist most likely.  I recently got my hair done for a wedding and we all had different hair dressers with the exception of the mom/sister of the bride sharing one and the MOG having the same one as another bridesmaid. 

ETA: Or, can some of the BM’s get their hair done while you’re getting your make-up done at that salon?  Then you’d all be at the same place even if they don’t want to pay for the make-up artist. 

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MadTownGirl:  That’s what I was thinking.  We had a few hairdressers and one makeup artist.  Three of us got our makeup done.  I gave my bridesmaids the choice to either get their makeup done or not, though.  I just don’t see why you would choose a salon that not everyone could go to.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

To be honest, I would be pretty bummed. There isnt anyone else at the salon that can do makeup for 3 girls? Where are they getting their hair done?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Bostongrl25:  +1 I agree.  I’d feel pretty left out.  Even though I’d understand on an intellectual level, I’d still feel hurt.

@sparklerunner:  Are you at least offering to pay for their hair & makeup wherever they end up having to go?  Maybe try and book them all appointments together with another stylist somewhere else so at least they’re not alone?  That would take some of the sting out of it.  And I’d apologize profusely.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Bostongrl25:  Agree. I would schedule someone else to come at the same time. If I were a BM, I’d be bummed and feel a little left out. Just because you’re not the bride doesn’t mean you dont want to look and feel beautiful. 

@sparklerunner:  I’d take the iniative and call each of the BMs, ask if they want to have their makeup done, and then go ahead and schedule another artist. 

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