Post # 1
I have contemplated this over and over. Yes a first look moment would be nice, yes it would be against tradition, yes the nerves and butterflies beforehand would be amazing… but knowing myself, I would rush through getting ready just to see him. I don’t want that. Do I? It will just be me and him. No one but the two random witnesses our venue found for us. He is my support for the most important day of my life thus far.
My SO needs to come dressed already. I feel like I will make him wear a sweatshirt over his suit so I can’t see him all dressed until it’s time… but for me, as of now, our photographer will be the one zipping and buttoning me up. But she won’t be able to get an image of the buttons being looped…. Is it that big of a deal to me? Is that the only reason I want my SO there while I’m getting ready? I’m such a bundle of nerves, having him there with me might be nice. Or would it? Maybe a glass of wine is all the support andcourage I need?? Ha.
What are you bees doing?? Please explain your vote (:
Post # 3
@princess-pea: My FI and I are getting ready separate that day because of logistics (he has to meet his brother, I have to get to the salon, etc). Otherwise, I’d be all about getting ready together.
Post # 4
I voted no, that I wanted the magical moment when he saw me for the first time.
Regarding your desire to have a photo of your dress buttons being fastened, why not simply reinact this moment later, perhaps before you change out of your dress at the end of the evening or at least after you have your first look?
Post # 5
Nope, I’m not. I actually contacted the hotel manager and she told me to call her on the day of and she will happily set me and our officiant (who is a friend and is also helping me put my gown on) as well as photographer in an open room to get ready in and FI will be getting ready in the room that we’re staying in for the weekend.
We’ll be doing a first look just outside the hotel so that we can walk to the ceremony on the beach together. I thought that would be really special. 🙂
I’m having my hair and makeup done at my artists house on the way to the coast, so he’ll see all of that. But he doesn’t get to see my dress until I say so! Can you have your officiant help you into your dress? Or maybe have your photographer bring an assistant that can help you into the dress? It might seem like a weird request, but I’m sure it’s not as weird as we want to make it out to be, haha.
Post # 6
I didn’t vote but just wanted to say that we eloped and had showers together and my partner hung around while I was getting my hair & makeup done but then he went off with the photographer while I slipped into my dress. The ‘first look’ wasn’t all that magical. It was more like ‘OK I’m dressed now, lets go get married! Hahaha
The hair & makeup artist helped with my dress and we had 2 photogs so while my parter was off getting photos done with our Pro photog, his assistant got some of me getting in the dress.
Post # 7
SO will be there when i put on my eye makeup and my dress, but i’m heading to a salon for my hair and the rest of my makeup (i can’t do foundation-y stuff to save my life). I’ll only be away from him for like, 40 mins max, before the ceremony 🙂
I haven’t seen him for months though (he’s working overseas) so he could smother me to death and i wouldn’t care!
Our ‘real’ wedding in mexico next year he won’t get any sneak peaks though!
Post # 8
@Brielle: that’s a brilliant idea. (:
@PacificMrs: how sweet! I’m actally really shy around new people when I’m the center of attention, so the more people in the room I don’t know, the more anxious I will get! Good idea though (:
@KellyLouise: I wish we had two photogs! that was another reason I wanted us to get ready together. why on earth would I want the photog to spend time on him not getting ready since he is already ready when he gets there? something to mention to her on the day off (:
@hwatermelon: sweet (: i can’t imagine being away from my SO any longer than 8 hours! I can’t wait til yours comes home to you! I can only imagine how much you miss him!
Post # 9
@princess-pea: H and I got ready in the same room – up to a certain point. He was fully dressed in his suit; I was in my slip/bra and had my hair done (I did my own hair and make up, yes I hauled hot rollers to Canada). He had not seen me in the dress yet, but the dress was hanging on a hanger in our room.
The photographer came and she had him go wait on some steps while she helped me into my dress. I wanted a first look. While it may not have been the emotional tearful first look you see in photos, H had not seen me fully dressed yet until that first look.
I am glad we did it because it really eased our jitters to be able to hug him prior to the ceremony. Then immediatly after, we walked into our ceremony space arm in arm which I loved. So hug + arm in arm = relaxed couple!
Post # 10
My FI will not be helping me get ready. That will totally be my girls, but I’m getting my first look, even though he thinks they are silly!
Post # 11
Nope, we’re getting ready separately. The girls have the salon to ourselves to get ready and the boys are getting ready elsewhere.
Post # 12
We got ready separately. I enjoyed that time with my girls, plus I was traditional in that regard.
Post # 13
@princess-pea: we sorta eloped (8 guests) and we debated the same thing. Ultimately we decided I’d come alone (in a seperate car) and get ready alone. Though my mom and sis ended up coming in. I wanted the ah-ha moment. Which came during our first look photos with the photographers instead of me walking down the aisle. That was perfect for us.
Do what feels right for you. I realized I really wanted that “first look” surprised moment. You may not. I will say the first look time let me connect with him and shake off any last minute jitters.
Post # 14
We’re doing a first look, but we will NOT be getting ready together. I’ll have my mom, hairstylist, MUA, possibly my FMIL in the room. There just won’t be room for him to get ready too without all of us stepping on each other. He can go get ready with the boys.
Post # 15
@sienna76: I like that idea too! then he won’t be wondering around the entire time
@luvmesumhim: I really think I’m starting to lean towards the first look! I won’t really be walking down the isle, we will walk to the justice of the peace together, so it would really be my only time to get in some sort of first look moment!,
Thank you all for your feedback! I now know for sure I want a first look (:
Post # 16
I sort of eloped with DH (we had a secret tiny wedding in our city with two witnesses). He was decorating the Chapel while I was getting ready, but he is the one that helped me zip up my dress. He was the only one there! He left though and I came in a limo and he helped me out, so it was still special to us.