Getting settled takes forrrrevvver!

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 4
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Make a to-do list everyday of a few small things and you’ll get through it!!

Post # 5
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge

When I first moved in with DH (just about a month before the wedding), I was at home trying to combine our separate belongings and dealing with the influx of wedding gift boxes every day. It was exhausting. And it was hot (no AC). But I made progress bit by bit.

I don’t know if you’re looking for advice on how to conquer your stuff or not, but I’ll throw in my two cents since I love organizing. Start with one specific project in mind, and try to pick one that works from the inside out. Such as, organize your closet as it is now to optimize what you have and see where you might have more space. Then do you laundry and put that away. Continue like that by cleaning out your storage area first and then adding new things. That way you’ll know where everything is and you won’t open a closet door in a tidy-looking room only to be pounded by stuff trying to make an escape.

Good luck!

Post # 7
3476 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@icetea:  To-do lists are good.  Pick a project that will make the most immediate impact on your day to day life to start.  For example, start doing all of the laundry, while you try to work down the pile of “stuff” most irritating to you.  Try to hold off on cooking crazy things until you have more of a handle on your place – or pick one new “toy” to explore and use a lot, whether that’s the breadmaker or crockpot, holding off on trying to learn how to use everything at once.

Post # 8
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@icetea:  It does take forever and stink, but on the bright side, at least you aren’t going to work all day and THEN having to come home to that! And just think, the sooner you get it done, the sooner you can relax and really enjoy being a SAHW! 🙂 🙂 

Post # 9
1107 posts
Bumble bee

I know the feeling. DH and I got married the DAY after our graduation, so it took a while. Still in the process.

Try to go room by room. I know you want to be a “good wife” and learn to cook and use all your fancy new presents. But just wait. If you don’t already cook often/know how to cook, you will just be overwhelmed and it will be another item on your to do list. Your hubby is fine with pizza rolls, cereal, hamburger helper, etc. Ha! He married YOU, not your food. 🙂

Try to get one room at a time figured out. I started with our living room, because it’s the first thing people see and I was embarrassed to have so much crap in it.

Buy a file storage crate and some file folders. Start filing. Right now, it doesn’t need to be organized, but you will be getting a LOT of mail in the next few months that you should hang on to just in case. Especially with your new name, new car insurance info, health insurance info, etc.  That will really take care of a lot of paper clutter.

If you’re like us…you have gifts you know you won’t use. Save them for regifts. 🙂 Ha! A gift is a gift. Christmas, other weddings, showers, you name it…that stuff can be used. It doesn’t have to be used by you.

About the wedding island, what can you throw away? 200 extra programs? Yeah. What can you resell? What can you donate to Goodwill? Dig through the pile and ask yourself those questions. Consider giving things to parents/family members as well. You’d be surprised at what weird items moms and grandmas like to keep as keepsakes…

If you need any other advice or help just let us know…or maybe you’re just venting! Either way congrats and good luck! 🙂

Post # 11
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I moved in to my FI’s place ten months ago. I have completely re-done the place, but there’s still sooo many things I planned to do that will probably never happen (we’re looking to move in the next year) and still stacks/piles of stuff I have yet to get organized!

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