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Getting sick of planning your wedding / weddings in general?

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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    So I have 5 weeks off from school and came home to plan the wedding. Keep in mind I don't have a ring and haven't made an engagement announcement to family and friends, though close friends know we're planning on getting married. The ring is on its way :)

    Anyway, I have been home three days and am already tired of it! We have appointments every day - caterers, photographers, etc. etc. - and its all getting really... not so fun. On top of that, my mom wants to spend a lot of time in craft stores and fabric stores looking for DIY supplies. While we're DIYing to save money, I am NOT crafty and its really boring to me.

    I feel horrible that I'm not enjoying my wedding planning like I should be. FI thinks I should scale back what planning I'm doing at home, to enjoy my time off. Mom says we have to do it like this because I have a short amount of time. I want to be a part of these things, but it makes me sad I'm not enjoying it like I always thought I would.

    Does anyone else feel this way? How do you help yourself slow down and enjoy it more?

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I was so sick of wedding stuff leading up to mine. I can tell you, i think it makes you happier and grateful and less likely to post-wedding-depress afterwards b/c you're just content with all the free time you have.

    I kept my nose to the grindstone, though. I stopped browsing for fun, and focused at the task at hand and took delirious happiness at checking little boxes for "done! done!" like a dork. Lists were my friends 

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    I'm in almost the same position as you, Danielle. I am really busy with school but since I started planning, I can't concentrate on anything else! I feel like I have so much left to do but I do have homework and studying to get done too.

    I don't think any of it is boring, I actually would rather plan than do schoolwork. I just hope I can stop planning until I have a break from school.

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    808bride    October 10, 2009   Hawaii

    I went through that. I have 8 months total to plan. I planned so much..I got tired of it!  I took a break, then planned like mad, then took another break. It's fun now. I think I'm getting a little behind schedule and maybe not ALL the things I dreamed of will now be possible b/c I slacked but I want to plan only when I'm having fun and loving it.   Taking a break, enlisting a new  friend or venting on the boards are great ways to break through. Although when I took a break...I even took a break from the boards for awhile.

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    I defintely went through that and am kind of going through that right now. I have worked hard the last 7 months or so that I am ready to see it all take place. I can't just sit back though, there is so much to do and I only have 50 + days left. I did however, take a vacation the end of June which helped me a bit.

     
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    budgetbeautiful    9/26/09   Fredericksburg, VA

    I'm really sick of planning too. I don't have much left to do, but I'm finding it hard to get movitated for what I have to do! I'm pretty zen about the whole thing, I'm worrying about what's important and letting go of a lot of things. If I can get it done before the wedding, I will. If not, then it wasn't important anyway!

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Try moving, renovating a home for sale (FI's), managing an animal sanctuary, teaching three different subjects and wedding planning! I have been sick of wedding planning, especially since I have done 99% all by myself! By there is a light at the end of the tunnel - 22 more days, yay!

     
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    ErinMarguerite    July 2009   DC Area

    My advice is to pace yourself! You have a full year left to work on everything, and 5 weeks at home.  There's no need to meet with all of your potential vendors at once. I know that your time is going to be squished around school soon, but maybe start by making a list of what you want to DIY, and then prioritizing them from most fun to least fun.  Do whatever you're excited about now, and put the rest on the back burner.

    I know it's really easy to burn out on wedding overload, but doe everything you can to not burn out so soon!

     
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    sonipapdi    June 12 2009   Virginia

    I had a short 3 months to plan a wedding. yes, we're just crazy like that. But I think that I'd have gone crazy if it was any longer. I didn't like the constant pressure of "did you do this?", "did you talk to them?" So, I'm definitely relieved of not having to deal with that. But now that its over, as you can see, I'm still here and still fascinated with weddings. Just glad not to be planning my own anymore. :)

     
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    bobbypinpearls    July 17, 2010   Arkansas

    haha i'm getting tired of it for completely differenty reasons! I'm getting tired because besides my fiance, i don't have anyone who really cares enough to want to help!

     

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