Post # 1
As 2010 is beginning to wind down, I am getting so antsy for a proposal, especially since my boyfriend has been so much more open to talking about it in the last month or so. We have all these exciting events coming up – a week long vacation on the Riviera Maya at the end of this month….then our three year anniversary next month…followed by X-mas and New Years Eve. I figure either of those four moments would be a PRIME time to propose. We’ve talked about tentative wedding dates in spring of 2012….we’ve talked about the fact that I would like to be engaged by the end of the year (to which he replies with a coy “maybe you will be”)…..we have looked at rings online. But then I get stressed because I know for a fact he hasn’t bought a ring yet, and I don’t think he is going to have time in the next month or so because he is super busy with work……so I don’t know HOW and if it is really going to happen which makes me stress. If I knew for a fact it would happen I think I could just sit back and relax but the fact that there is still that doubt that it might not happen is driving me crazy. How do I cope?!?! I know I should distract myself by going to the gym, or studying for the GMAT (which I need to do), or reading or finding some other hobby but nothing helps and any free time I have I find it eating away at me! I know as we get more and more into the holiday season I am going to see more people I know get engaged (one friend just got engaged last weekend so it is starting) I feel really happy – but also insanely crazy because I want it to happen to me so I can share the happy news, too!!! I just am dying to pick up the phone to my mom or best friend and say “IT HAPPENED!” and each day that chugs along just makes me agonize more that maybe it won’t…..ugh!! Sorry for the rant – a little frustrated right now if you can’t tell already;)
Post # 3
Just because he’s busy with work doesn’t mean he isn’t cooking something up on the sly. My FI has surprised me on more than one occasion with something I didn’t think he had the time or money for, it’s suddnely like “Poof, I did this for you” and I’m shocked. I know you’ll be sick of hearing this by now, but good things come to those who wait.
Post # 4
Well, I think you are right in saying that you may need to find a hobby or spend more time at the gym. Sometimes distraction is a wonderful thing and can help with the nerves/anxiousness. But at least you can come here to vent! 🙂
I feel your pain, and you are not alone. You are right though, with the holiday season coming up and a three year anni, who knows? It may be just around the corner! I hope that you have a glittering ring on your finger soon. And I hope that whenever he does choose propose, that somehow he still captures that element of surprise.
Best of luck! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Post # 5
please don’t get your hopes too high. i was dashed after our vacation in september (we went to nyc for our 10 year anniversary) when he didn’t propose. i wish i would have focused more energy on the vacation itself instead of wondering if he was going to pop the question.
Post # 6
Aw, I know how you feel wanting to pick up the phone and tell your mom and friends. I’m looking forward to finally calling my mom. 🙂 It’s coming, just when you least expect it, hopefully in all of those events y’all have this season!
Why no get into Christmas shopping? It’s early, but it’s a GOOD distraction. Try to find him and others, the best gifts out there and bargain shop.:)
P.s. know you didn’t ask for suggestions, but just wanted to give some since I know it’s CHristmas Challenge season.LOL
Post # 7
@MsMamaBear: Thanks, haha, I do need suggestions! Ironically, getting really, really into X-mas decorating and shopping is what I did decide to be my new hobby for the next two months or so! 😉 buying a cute tree, decorating, gift shopping……
I know I should not get psyched up about vacations and certain annviersaries and dates but it is soooo hard!!!
Thanks for the support you bees are wonderful 🙂
Post # 8
Wow, we have the EXACT same story, right down to studying for the GMATs! My bf and I talked about dates in spring 2012, he knows the ring I want, he gives the same vague answers when I try to bug him about it, I don’t know if he bought a ring, and I can’t wait to be able to celebrate with him/friends/family and show everyone at work! Unfortunately since I’m in the same boat I don’t have suggestions- at home I try to force myself to scrapbook the pics of a vacation we took six months ago, but since I’m at work now and the boss is out I’m clearly on Weddingbee. I bet if he’s talking about it more openly he’s probably thinking/planning and you’re right in assuming it’s going to happen soonish, but probably when you don’t expect it. Good luck & keep us posted!
Post # 9
@Seaside: How neat we have the same story! I hope your proposal comes through soon, too. I hope my man gets on top of it soon! Until then, I’ll probably be surfing Weddingbee when I should be working and/or studying for the GMAT 😉
Post # 10
@maggierose: I just wanted to add that you are not alone! I am in the same exact place as you all are. My boyfriend and I are both 28 (going on 29) and have been dating for 4 years (seriously dating 3 1/2 yrs). He is the last of his close group of 9 guy friends to be engaged/married. We started talking very casually about getting married last winter. My bf said to wait until he graduated graduate school in May to start talking more about marriage. I finished graduate school 2 years ago and we are both done with school, financially secure, and working. We ended up moving-in together in the spring and things have been going really well. We both comment how we like living together. I am now getting scared that he has gotten too comfortable living together and sees no reason to get engaged. We talked more seriously about getting engaged in June and he said “You have nothing to worry about. We are definitely going to be married, just be patient b/c it’s coming” (5 1/2 months ago!). He has not uttered a single word about marriage since this conversation. We went on a cruise to Bermuda in July and everyone thought he would propose then, but nothing happened! We are now leaving to go to the Dominican Republic in 1 week followed by the holidays. I am almost positive he has no intention to propose anytime soon, since certain things tell me it’s not coming while on vacation. It is so hard to keep waiting. I am also getting very antsy! I don’t want to continuously bring it up b/c I want him to “want” to marry me and not feel that he “has” to marry me now if that makes sense. I guess we just need to stay postive!