Post # 1
I didnt know where to put this but I wanted a general opinion on this. this isnt something I can go back and change but im curious if you think i did some kind of damage or something?
I absent mindedly had the tv on the other day while cooking dinner. The show was a show on mtv called “the friendzone”. its a rather innocent show in my mind that just documents people who are wanting to tell their best friends that they have a crush on them. One of the episodes had a gay man on it that wanted to tell his best friend he liked him as more. I didnt even notice that my son was paying attention at all since he had been running around all over and i was in the midst of cooking and whatnot. My son says “mom I think that boy likes another boy”. And i answered simply but matter of factly. I said “well babe, love is just love and sometimes boys love boys and girls love girls.” I then explained that we dont judge others based on who they love. We judge them on the type of people they prove to be to us. of course i used more 6 year old friendly terms. I dont think I did anything wrong by being so direct with answering that question. My cousin was in the room and she didnt say anything while he was there but after he walked out she goes ” I cannot believe you did that”. she said that in her opinion that i shouldnt be explaining things like that to a 6 year old. He is 6, not stupid or ignorant. I also didnt want to have a bad reaction to seeing two gay men because I dont want him to think there is a negative association with it, if tha tmakes sense. I felt like if i just answered and didnt make it taboo that it was the best approach. I am like that with a lot of things with him and my cousin really made me feel as if I was a bad mom or that I did something wrong because I answered the way I did. Im just curious what your thoughts are on this?
Post # 3
@stardustintheeyes: I think your answer was great. I probably would have answered in the same way. I dont understand what your cousin was upset about.
Post # 4
I think you answered his question perfectly, and I commend you for handling it so well.
Post # 6
@stardustintheeyes: I think that is the perfect way to answer it. If we are trying to eradicate homophobia more parents need to teach their kids this way.
Love between two people is love and that is to be cherished and fostered.
Post # 7
@stardustintheeyes: I think you answered the right way! I don’t understand what your cousin would have doen differently.
Post # 8
YOu did the right thing. Kids need to be taught at an early age about acceptance of all kinds of people and ways of life.
Post # 9
I don’t think you did anything wrong, I don’t understand why your cousin had a problem.
Post # 10
i think more parents need to be like you and be upfront and honest with their kids when these questions are asked – in terms they can understand of course but i think you were in the right to give him that answer.
Post # 10
I think you answered the question beautifully!
Post # 11
I agree, I think you handled the situation perfectly. And besides that, he’s your son, not hers.
Post # 12
Your answer was perfect! I wouldn’t do anything different than what you did.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I think you handled it beautifully! I remember my aunt’s best male friend having a boyfriend when I was tiny and I got a very simple, age appropriate explanation just like the one you gave.
I loved that guy…his apartment was like Studio 54…mirrors and neon (this was in the early 80s).
By The Way, did you see the youtube video of the little boy encountering his first gay couple? He was totally cool with it. At the end, he goes “can we go play ping pong now?” or something like that.
Post # 14
I think your answer was perfect! Basic enough for a child to understand without going into too much detail.
I’m curious: What did your cousin think you should have done?
Post # 15
@stardustintheeyes: That was a great answer and you should be proud of how you handled this. Thank you for sharing this insight/experience.