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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    Hello wedding world..!!

    I’m a 22 year old that has been thinking about marriage way too long. I met Mr. Coffee cup when I was 14 years old, and less than a year later we were officially dating. Seven years later, and after a few years talking about marriage and joking about eloping Mr. Coffee cup asked me straight on if I wanted a wedding. When he realized the only reason I had against a wedding celebration was money related, he started doing math and looking at his phone calendar, and told me to set the date for next year.

    I’m still reluctant to call myself engaged, there’s no ring and we made a vow not tell anyone at least till the end of the year, so it kind of feels like it’s not official yet. It’s not like he has to throw a ‘Will you marry me?’ at me, he’s been sure I’ll marry him for years now, I’m just not yet used to the idea it’s finally for real.

    There are good reasons we’re not telling anyone. First, my parents will freak, although they love Mr. Coffee cup they’re not on board with me getting married ‘this young’. Second, we want to avoid the wedding talk with our parents, we come from a strongly catholic culture and we do not share our family beliefs, therefore we’re not having a religious ceremony, which will really freak the entire family. Third, avoiding third persons finding out we’re getting married and wanting to come to our wedding, it might sound lame and uptight but we have a huge (and I mean HUGE) family, we’re talking about 200 people just counting aunts, uncles and cousins, we can’t afford inviting every person we know.

    It’s gonna be a lot of work to pull out something beautiful out of a small budget, but I’m a real economist and I’m not into a lot of typical wedding stuff, so hopefully that will help save some money. I’m starting to get excited about the planning, specially cause it’s all a secret, I feel like a Jane Austen character.

     Do or did you ever have to keep a secret about your wedding or engagement?

     
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    thirdtimebride    November 2, 2013   Tallahassee, FL

    Absolutely! We're totally under the radar right now just because SO wants to wait until he's done the official proposal with ring (by the end of the year, he says) before we tell everyone but we're already doing some pre-planning and budgeting to make our own small-wedding dreams a reality.

     
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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    Isn’t it nerve racking? You just want to tell the world!!

     
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    ostrich    April 2011   left coast

    *waves* welcome C! so excited to hear about your wedding plans. and i LOVE jane austen.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Welcome!  We did the same thing when we got engaged, we didin't want our parents to get upset about us being engaged when we weren't planning on getting married until after we graduated college.

     

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