Post # 1
So here is my dilemma. We are having a smaller wedding (150 guests). But still a very nice wedding at a nice club for reception, band, etc. However, we have gotten VERY nice gifts from people who aren’t invited. I feel so bad and awkward when I write them thank you notes. (especially if I see them around town) because they got us a great gift, but weren’t included on the guest list. Are they perceiving me a rude and snooty, because we are having a very nice wedding and they aren’t invited? Or are they just making a nice gesture?
Post # 3
they’re making a nice gesture. if they thought you were rude, they wouldn’t have gotten you a gift!
Post # 4
I am having the exact same issue – and we haven’t sent our STDs yet so those people probably don’t even know they aren’t invited. I agree though, it’s just really nice of them, so just say thanks! 🙂
Post # 5
You are not obligated to give them an invite.
Yes its possible a few may be anticipating an invite, but not necessarily. My mom has sent gifts to most of my friends when they were engaged, but she was only invited to one wedding. She didn’t expect to get an invite, it was her gesture of congratulations.