Getting used to your new last name – how long did it take you?

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s been 3 years and i still found myself looking for my maiden name on a sign in sheet at work just this morning….

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well, I have only been married since May 31, and I am still not used to it!!!!!  I changed it on my social security card, DL, bar membership, and at work.  I still write and say my maiden name.  Oh well.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I changed mine right away with social security, work, and now my DL. Still working on getting it changed over everywhere though…like the bank etc. And I need to change my passport but also need to renew it so I need to get photos done.

Overall I have adjusted to it pretty well, but I kept my maiden name as part of my name. So at work I am “Jane Smith Jones” for example (maiden name, new last name).  But I am signing my new married name pretty frequently now and it’s becoming routine.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

MsGinkgo:  its been 1 year and so far im getting pretty used to it. except when i go back home. DH and i dont spend much time in my hometown together, so last time i went (feb) every one called me by my maiden name “hey well look who it is Ms black blank.” i felt bad to have to correct them now. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My to-be name and my currrent name (married in Sept) aren’t *that* similar but start with t he same letter and are about the same length….I’ve been signing my to-be name for several months now as no one would notice anyway.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

MsGinkgo:  Weve been married nearly a year & I still think it’s weird!! I dropped my maiden entirely because I wanted to keep my middle names since they are family names passed down from my great-great grandmother & grandmother to the first born daughter each generation… 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I made the switch right away, and it was weird for awhile.  I did keep my maiden name as a second middle name, and professionally I use both (so, for example, going from Jane Smith to Jane Smith Jones).  However, I’m not in the office on a daily basis (I’m a grad student finishing my dissertation) and in most of my daily life I go by my married name.  I’m not sure when I got used to it anymore, but I’m totally adjusted now – I don’t think of my maiden name when I go to introduce myself, for example, I automatically give my married name.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MsGinkgo:  I haven’t changed it anywhere yet, so not used to it at all! LOL!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MsGinkgo:  I’ve been married since May 25 and it still feels odd! Immediately, I started using my new name at work, and it’s taken till this week (with honeymoon and moving and stuff) to get to the DMV, Social Security, talk to my banks, etc. 

I figure it’ll be weird for at least another year. When meeting new people and I introduce myself, I have to pause and think about it between my first and last name. Haha! 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m already worried about this, I’m going from a short and sweet one syllable last name that is well known in this area to a very italian 3 syllable last name that could be spelled a million different ways…

I also HATE cursive (I was never taught in school because I moved too much) and I hate hate my signature with my to-be last name. Wahh! I’m trying to figure out if just the last initial will be enough for my “signature” LOL but then my initials will be BAD. Literally. lol

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We got married June 7th and I changed everything as soon as we got back from the honeymoon. The only thing different is seeing it on Facebook occasionally it takes me by surprise but at work and school it’s been super easy and I love having his name! I practiced for awhile before the wedding though lol He has a much longer and more difficult name than mine was. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m finally used to mine, and it’s been 1 1/2 years. DH called me by my maiden name a couple days ago as a joke, since I forgot to wear my wedding ring (whoops, left it at home!) and oddly enough, I was SO weirded out by it! I didn’t realize how used to my new name I was until I was called by my last name. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

Ms_Purple:  I did it that way too.  Maiden as middle and use both at work…

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