Post # 1
My wedding has passed and it was a great time! However, something has been bothering me and I’m not sure how to tackle this situation. My brother in law’s girlfriend did a few things at the wedding that have upset my family members. First, she came in late and entered behind my mother in law as she was being escorted down the aisle. Now her pictures entering the church have the Girlfriend in the background and she is upset!
Then at the reception, Girlfriend made a scene by having a fight with my brother in law. She yelled at him, stormed out, then returned, only to storm out again. People keep asking what her deal was and I’m embarrassed that she didn’t have the class to take her issues outside in private. She hasn’t talked to me since the wedding and I’m hoping she knows how upset I am with her. I would like to say something, I’m just not sure what. Any advice?
Post # 3
I would suggest you just let it go. She is your BIL’s girlfriend. She may someday be your BIL’s wife.
Why make a bigger deal out of something that can’t be changed?
The photographer can edit her out of the pics.
Post # 4
I don’t know. To accomplish what? Receive an apology? Will that make it better? If she doesn’t have the wherewithall to not act like that then it doesn’t sound she would even understand what you are saying to her or even be sorry.
I mean I would love to say something to all the people that RSVP’d yes but didn’t come and expecially to the person who RSVP’d yes on someone else’s card, when she wasn’t invited, and then didn’t show up. But it accomplishes nothing. Probably makes them feel bad but it won’t change the fact I paid for their wasted meals or that those tables were empty. And after many months, I don’t even think about it.
Also, we started 10-15 min late to allow for latecomers. Yet, people were still late after that. I have the picture of me walking down the aisle with these people in the background with their face smashed up against the door because my DOC wouldn’t let them in. Honestly, I’m not putting those pictures on the wall so they make me laugh. And I have other pics of me walking down the aisle without them in it.
I’m sure it would be possible, if you wanted, to have her photoshopped out. I guess I would give it a few months but I really think it won’t matter then. If it does, I think it might be better left to your husband to handle. I’m a firm believer in husband dealing with his family and me dealing with mine!
Post # 5
Knowing me, I’d be FUMMING if I were you!
(I honestly am shocking myself in this advice) Do yourself the favor and just stay quiet. She probably meant to make a scene because 1. she was not getting married to your brother and 2. it wasnt about HER. UGH! People just suck and can be way too needy. Your coming to her might just give her the satisfaction that she pissed you or someone else off for some attention; pretend like you didnt even notice. OR wait til the pictures come in and say “are you F’ing kidding me” in front of her! Embarrass HER!
Hopefully your brother takes this as an example; and gets out while he can! She sounds like a nightmare!
Post # 6
@CupCakeMeg: LOLOLOLOL this is exactly what I would do too – I have a person like this!!!!!!
@Pupperoni: Just use the bee as your sounding board to get your frustrations out.
Post # 7
Honestly? Even though, I would be PISSED, it’s just sooo not worth your energy to give her even more attention. She made herself look really bad, don’t let her poor behavior damage your memories of your day.
If anything, maybe your husband could pull his brother to the side and have a dude talk like “dude, wtf was up with your gf making a huge scene? that was so lame” Guys don’t like drama like that attached to them.
Hopefully she’s embarrassed herself enough that she won’t be around you for awhile. 🙂
Post # 8
@Pupperoni: I know it sucks but get it out of your system here, and let it go. As much as you are owed one, don’t expect an apology from her — it sounds like she’s just not wired that way. Forgive her for her being the wacky person she is, for whatever reasons, justified or not, and just move on. Karma has big, pointy teeth and will bite her eventually. 😉 Who knows, she is just BIL’s Girlfriend…maybe she won’t be around the family much more if she keeps up with that behavior, and you won’t have to deal with her again anyhow. Hang in there, and be happy with what did go beautifully with your wedding. Congratulations!
Post # 9
At least she didn’t act like she was shooting herself with an imaginary gun during your Maid/Matron of Honor speech, like my BIL’s gf did…talk about classy….
And to all those guests that RSVP’d yes and didn’t show….I can’t WAIT till your wedding!
I agree with the above ladies, let it go, some people just don’t get it…..
Post # 10
Wow! I would be pissed at this as well. However, I think it is best that you let it go. People are A-holes sometimes, and by you letting it go, it shows that you are not even acknowledging her inappropriate behavior. She obviously wanted attention, and by you calling her out on it, she’ll know that she got to you. Hopefully, she won’t be around much longer
Post # 11
Drama drama drama. Hopefully BIL will realize that drama and attention seeking is only fun when you’re a teenager and dump her.
Post # 12
@CupCakeMeg: is so right. People like this thrive on negative attention so speaking to her won’t accomplish anything.