Post # 1
I work with this girl and we arnt terriably close but shes a great girl and i work with her guy as well. She stated in the invitation that they want cash for a gift for their honeymoon. I was thinking 40 because we dont even hang out besides working together and we arent that close. I dont know?
Post # 3
Really, she put that in her invitation? I think some people are shocked to see registry information included with an invitation (although I don’t necessarily mind–many people register now, and it’s nice to just be told up front where to go). But asking for cash seems a little gauche.
But either way, that’s the situation… I would say just give her the same in cash that you would have spent on a gift. If $40 is about how much you would have spent, then that seems appropriate.
Post # 4
Wow — I’m surprise she put that in her invite!
Give her what you can afford. $40 seems reasonable.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2018 - St. Charles Borromeo Church/Jefferson-Orleans North
Whoa…talk about tacky! You never mention gifts in an invite! However, it is what it is…I think $40 would be fine.
Post # 6
Wow – I wonder if any of the guests will buy her a book on ettiquette instead of giving her cash!
In response to your question, I think that $40 would be fine.
Post # 7
Are you and your FI going to the wedding? If yes, I think $40 may be a little low. If you’re not going, or just you are going, I think $40 is fine, but $50 would probably cover the cost of your plate, which is typically my litmus.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s tacky, she’s just being honest. Should she let people show up with 15 espresso makers just to satisfy Emily Post?
Give whatever you’re comfortable giving, whether it’s $10 or $50. I agree with others who said that whatever you would have spent on a gift is fine.
Post # 9
I think asking for cash is the same as having a wedding registry (it is also asking for certain things). They are just being honest with what they want. Maybe they already have their house and they already have all the things they need in a home, so an additional toaster or plates are not necessary.
$40 is ok, in my opinion.
Post # 10
I’ve been to a few weddings with no registry and where the couple wanted $ towards the honeymoon. I think this is especially common for people that already have all the stuff they need in their home, or for those that just cannot afford a honeymoon. My litmus is how much I would have spent on a gift. If it is someone close to me I ususally buy a place setting of their China (usually about $100), if it is someone that is just an aquaintence then I spend about 1/2 that, so $50 would work for me. This is a personal decision that you need to make. If both you and your fh are going, then you give a little more than if you were going alone.
Post # 11
Do you know what kind of reception they are having? I would give enough to cover your costs — usually $50.