Post # 1
Hi Ladies! I was wondering if anyone else has this kind of experience.
I am engaged and been with my fiance for over 2 years and I love him so much! Well I had a relationship before like 3 years ago and they were very short (2 motnhs) and very distructive. The man was a jerk and lier and left me quite hearbroken after. However I cut off all the contacts with him (changed my phone number , canceled facebook, myspace etc) . I have moved on and found a wonderful man and love of my life! We are engaged to be married! I am not the person who believes in male-female friendship or would liek to stay in touch with ex. Well right after I got engaged somehow my ex have found me on one of the social networks! ( It is not even american network) It really shocked me as it is not even american! And he started annoying me with messeges ! Something like how much he still loves me and wants me back and that he doesnt believe I will get married and that we destined to be together! The bottomline He showed up after 3 years with no respect to my life at all! It just makes me so mad that some people just cant let others be happy! I am in no WAY interested in him or have any feelings but I hate past interupting my happy present! And it makes me mad that he is so jelouse ( in the bad way) of my happiness and that I am with someone else!
Doesnt any of you ladies had your exs bugging you when you most happy?
Post # 3
It used to happen to me all the time, but he stopped after a couple of years. I’m glad to see you are smart enough to stay away from him, good for you!
Post # 4
Oh I am happy he doesnt have my phone number or email or even town I live in! I have blocked him on my page so he no longer can contact me! But just the fact that after 3 years when I left my past behind …. having this to deal with
Post # 5
I’m still friendly with most of my exs but one of my more serious ones (the only one I lived with) lost his marbles when I first got engaged. Crazy drunk texts and calls in the middle of the night, etc. I ignored it and I think he’s given up.
Post # 6
I had it happen to me “sort of”…he reached out to me apologizing for things he had done to me and was happy that I had found someone and looked like I was in a happy relationship…uh yeah thanks but NO THANKS A-HOLE! Actually, I was nice to him just because I don’t have any hard feelings towards him anymore since I am completely moved on…even though he was so controlling I wasn’t allowed to EAT in front of him (he thought it was gross to see a woman eat)…this amongst other things…oh the joys of learning from your mistakes.
Post # 7
Oh hahaha! Sort of the same here! Honestly I do have hard feelings not cuz I care for him anymore but becouse of what he put me through at that time. And it is just not the time I’d liek to remember. But thats what he was trying to do! Trying appologize and beg to call him and give him a chance! And that he never could move on and 3 years later still loving me and crap like this! I mean com’on! The only reason he is writing cuz he saw I have MOved on and engaged
Post # 8
@Dell79: Yikes. Sounds like a huge jerk. I hope you didn’t stay with him too long!!!
I have one of those clingers from the past too, even now that I’m married, I have gotten a phone call from this dude. Usually I ignore him, but felt compelled to answer my phone after I got married since he told me when I was engaged that my Fiance “was only temporary.” I didn’t like that at all, so I wanted him to get the point that my HUSBAND was not going anywhere, and he should just leave me alone.
The worst part is that this guy treated me badly and sort of left a negative impact on me from cheating so much. I’m still working on the trauma of that one. Yuck.
Post # 9
This is what happened to me too. That guy have left that negative impact I try to leave behind.
Post # 10
Yes, I have had a similar experience. After explaining a couple of times that I am happy, in love, committed and faithful I gave up and started ignoring him. That put a stop to it, finally. Sometimes just a response at all gives them enough ammo to keep going, but by ignoring them they eventually get bored and give up. If it gets too bad you may have to consider getting a restraining order, or at least threaten one.
Post # 11
I’ve been there. It took three years for him to stop sporadically calling me from random numbers. And he still talked to my mama last time he was in town (last year). Luckily he has moved four states away now and is supposedly getting married. Haven’t heard from him in a year.
Post # 12
Ignore, ignore, ignore. This is the only tactic and it will work eventually!