Post # 1
Objective opinions welcomed! I’m feeling incredibly giddy about my upcoming marriage but wonder if it’s silly for me to feel this way. I’m 52. I was married when I was 19 & in college because it was a sin to live with a man and we were the shame of our families. We did the right Catholic thing & got married. We did love each other but 3 years later, his blossoming bi-polar disorder (only identified years later) tore our lives & marriage apart. We were SO young. 2 years after that divorce I married a man I thought was stable because he was so without emotion. I stayed married for 25 years (didn’t want to “fail” a second time) but endured plenty of emotional abuse. He was incapable of loving anything or anybody but I was sure I could make it work with enough therapy, patience, changing myself etc. When I couldn’t take it anymore and the kids were a bit older, I had to end it or I’d end myself. Lots of therapy before I came to this decision. By the time we separated I’d gone through all the stages of loss and was ready to move on. While waiting for the decree to be finalized, I met an amazing man and we’ve been together ever since. He’s never been married, is quite a bit younger than I am but he is kind, loving, open, sincere, loves my daughter…all the things I never had. He is a gift in my life and I think I’m the same to him. He adores me and my 87 yr old mom adores him, which is saying a lot! My problem is, I’m over the moon with excitement that we’re getting married! I never thought I’d do it again but I’m so sure of him and us that I can’t believe how lucky I am after so many years of total soul-crushing unhappiness. Is it silly or ridiculous to be this age and feel like I’m a kid again?
Post # 3
It’s awesome! I wish everyone could experience such giddiness–at any age. I’m glad you finally get to be whole and happy.
Post # 4
That kind’ve brought tears to my eyes. My mom just turned 50 and is still married to my father. If for some reason they didn’t last, I would be so happy for her to find someone that made her feel the way you describe your man makes you feel. Age has literally nothing to do with the giddy or the happiness you feel…it’s LOVE 🙂
Post # 5
Yay for you!!! You should feel giddy….you deserve it!! I am an encore bride too, and my Fiance has never been married either. When I married before it was becasue I was dating a man at the point in my life when people got married…not becasue he was ‘right’ for me. I now realize the difference and am giddy as well!! I have a beautiful daughter too :)….Fiance loves her like his own. Never feel silly for being over the moon in love…it’s freaking hard to find!
Post # 6
You have every right to feel as giddy as any bride does. Congratulations!!! 🙂
Post # 7
Im glad you’re giddy! Im panicked 2nd time around.
Post # 8
I think it’s wonderful! Why shouldn’t you be giddy??
I’m 42 and an encore bride. Fiance is 40 and has never been married. I thank God every day that we’re together.
Post # 9
IMO, you have every right to be happy and excited, regardless of YOUR age or your FI’s age. I am 41, my Fiance is 41 (but four months younger and never lets me forget it), both ended emotionally abusive relationships, and we have never been happier. And we’re planning to do it up right! Even though we have adult children (21 and 19, both going on 12) we’re going to have the ceremony, and the reception, and everything that goes along with it.
Post # 10
@Mrs Canuck: I’m glad you found someone and hope you both have healed from your past. I think my Catholic upbringing has a lot to do with me having trouble accepting happiness. I finally feel “worthy” lol. Good luck to both of you!