Post # 1
How many of you are giving your parents and in-laws gifts on your wedding day? I wasn’t initally planning on it , but came across a list of “things to do before the wedding” online the other night and gifts to the parents was on there. It never even crossed my mind. Is this a tradition that I am out of the loop on?
Post # 3
I am not sure yet, I think I will do a small album of “growing up” pics for both sets of parents, maybe with a gift card so they can enjoy a night out.
Post # 4
We did because they helped out financially for both the wedding and the rehearsal. We gifted both of them a weekend at a B&B but most people usually do photo album or a framed wedding picture. We really wanted them to know how thankful we were.
Post # 5
I might just get my mum, and his mum, flowers, in a nice bouquet in our wedding colours. Or after the wedding you could make them a photo album of your wedding pictures in a colour that matches your wedding theme.
Post # 6
I gave his dad a bottle of liquor, his mom a pendant of the Chinese character “love” (I’m Chinese, they’re Caucasian). My dad a picture frame that said “No matter how old, I’ll always be daddys little girl” or something like that from Kolhs and a jewlery box for my mom.
Post # 7
Our parents paid for our wedding and were incredibly supportive through the whole thing, so yes, we wanted to give them thank-you presents.
We gave my mom and stepdad season tickets to a chamber music group, gave his parents a gift cert toward a cruise, and gave my dad and stepmom gifts to the charity groups they each volunteer with extensively. The gifts were all roughly equal in value, but picked out with each couple’s preferences in mind.
Post # 8
I never knew this was done before coming here to WB. I didn’t plan on it. It’s something to discuss with FI, but it seems like an unneeded expense. My parents and FI’s Dad just don’t need anything and I know my parents don’t like gifts to just get them and FFIL would probably make some snarky comment about whatever we get him, as he does with any gift-giving occassion.
Taking off on the above posters idea, we may donate to charities in honor of our parents. Charities related to the diseases my parents have and a charity related to what FI’s mother died of. But, maybe that’s all too morbid!
Post # 9
We bought them picture frames. They seemed to like them.
Post # 10
I definitely will be giving them something!
Post # 11
@babeandbabe: I’m in a similar sitiuation with you, I never thought about giving my parents a gift until I came here. My mom would probably make a comment about how I spent money on a gift for her when it should have gone to the wedding, that way it’s x amount of dollars I wouldn’t have had to ask her for.
My dad lately doesn’t like gifts. For his 60th birthday he just wanted cake and a card and to spend time with his kids. My parents are divorced so joint gifts are out.
Post # 12
It isn’t traditional to me or anyone else I know and in my book it’s stupid to get every single person a gift for every little thing that they do. I think if you’re giving something it should be something sentimental… not a watch or something. My parents are paying for my entire wedding so I will get them something nice and meaningful but those are the only people I’m getting gifts for…
Post # 13
We gave our parents a card at our rehearsal dinner and now after the wedding are planning on giving them a photo book. However, we paid for our own wedding. If my parents had paid then I would have gotten them a more considerable gift.