Post # 1
In terms of Giving and Receiving wedding and shower gifts, I have heard people suggest to spend between $30 and $500…what is the REALLY the norm? I never know what to spend on people, and also don’t know how much stuff to register for for my wedding…I know it varies by city, but how can some people say $50 for a wedding is good and others say you should spend $300 or more?!?!?!
Post # 3
we got $40-50 from most people; $100 from family members, and $200-400 from really close family members.
Post # 4
Everyone has their own regional norms and personal spending habits. I know that I could not afford to spend $100 on someone’s wedding, let alone $500. I usually try to spend between $30 – $50 depending on how close I am with the bride. $50 is my max right now because I can’t really afford much. I’m sure that will change as I get older and am more financially settled, which is probably the case with most people. Also, as a note, I usually try to buy gifts off the registry because then I can buy something I know the bride and groom want without spending a fortune.
Post # 5
For a shower gift, I spend between 45 and 75. For a wedding gift, I spend between 125 and 300.
Post # 6
Thanks. To clarify my question–we live in a suburb of Cleveland. Most of our friends are college educated and employed.
Post # 7
For a shower I spend $50-$100 depending on how close I am do the bride. If I was VERY close (like one of my 4 closest girls) I might spend $150 and do something more elaborate.
For a wedding where FI and I are invited, we give a minimum of $200, depending on the type of wedding and how close we aree to the bride and groom we might give $300. (again, if it was one of my 4 closest girls, or my brother, I’d give $400).
That said, i usually make the wedding cake for the couple so it’s been a while since I actually had to give a cash gift, so I don’t know if my amounts are still in line with the norm or not anymore.
Post # 8
@AllieInOhio: In my circle, we spend about $50 for the shower and between $150-$300 per couple at the wedding. For my shower, I have gifts between $30 and $150 purchased so far– in fact, many are on the higher end ($100+). I was surprised! My guess, is that the people who bought early are older family members and we will get gifts on the lower end later.
Post # 9
I grew up thinking that you get a gift that costs at least the amount of your meal, which can depend upon your economic area and if you know ahead of time the average cost per plate. In my area, for a single person, that’s $30.00; $60.00 for a couple.
We had guests spend that average, with some (OK, A LOT) going beneath that (like $12.00 for two people) or above that (like $400.00 for two people).
For my bridal shower, the average person spent $25.00.
Post # 10
It kind of depends on your social circle… in ours, $50-100 is what most spent, though some spent around $25 (generally the younger ones who couldn’t afford as much).
Post # 12
I spend about $30-$100 generally, depending on how close I am to the couple. I would say I more or less spend about double what I would spend on their birthday present (but the minimum being about $30), if that’s helpful.
Post # 13
Around here $50-100 is pretty normal.
Post # 14
It depends a lot on your circle and how generous your family typically is. At our wedding, people spent about $40-50 per couple on their gift. It was less than I expected, but apparently that’s what people are used to. My shower gifts averaged about $25.
Post # 15
50-75 for shower. No less than 150 from us. Good friends 200-300.
Post # 16
I would do $100/pp when I’m a guest.