Post # 1
What is the average wedding gift? The places where I registered all said $100, although a very large percentage of ours were $50 or less. (Some of these are having financial problems, and I totally understand that, but some of these are VERY well off and close friends of ours or our parents.)
Post # 3
i always spend about $100, but for our wedding I want to register for things between $25-$250 because I know a lot of our guests are struggling financially!
Post # 5
We got some that are like $20, $40, and then we got some that were $150. It really really depends. If someone really wants to spend $200 on you, they’ll get you a GC, write you a check, or gift you multiple items.
A range is always the best. We found we had to go purchase most of our gifts over $80 ourselves.
The economy is rough; wedding gifts are no exception. Personally i spend about $100, but I also only go to a small handful of weddings a year. I bump that up to about $120 when i’m in the wedding. If i didn’t know them real well, i’d probably cap it at $50 which i’ve done before.
In my experience, the well off family members tend to write a check.
Post # 6
You know, this is honestly something a little silly to me – I don’t think there should be a set amount … it just seems like it’s a reason to try to get upset or something – who cares? A gift is a gift.
Post # 7
This is my own rubric, I’m not sure where it really came from, but I always think $100 is standard wedding gift amount. If I’m totally broke (grad school, anyone?), $50 minimum.
Post # 8
I tend to be a bit ridiculous. I give between $125-175, depending on how well we know them. That’s never including the shower gift either. But, I think @100 is good. I’d be fine with that!
Post # 9
FI and I usually give $300 combined whenever we go to weddings. Lately we’ve gone to family weddings so that amount is easier to justify.
My dad has been known to give as much as $1500!
Post # 10
I think it depends on the area you live in; the closeness to the couple and if they have had showers or engagement parties. We have friends that I attended the bridal shower and the wedding. We spend about $50 for the shower & gave them $40 at the wedding. I don’t know if this is a normal amount or not. I felt like for this perticular couple it was a little more than we would have spent but when they have showers also you usually spend more. Others that we’ve attended we usually give $40 and some sort of wedding momento. Maybe this is just the norm around here though. No one usually spends quite that much enless it’s REALLY close family and friends.
Post # 11
I agree with KitKat. I had a very small shower, and am talking about people who didn’t come. We had a small wedding, so it was only the people we considered close. Is $50 for a couple cheap when they make well into 6 figures?
Post # 12
We give $100, and $150 if we know them really well.
Post # 13
I have always heard that you should split it up like this
1/3 of the gifts between $5-$50
1/3 of them $50 – $75
1/3 $75 and up
I can’t remember where I heard this, but it seems to work because people have a variety of things to choose from. I sometimes like to buy gifts that go together like… I bought an ice cream themed gift set once (ice cream maker ball, scoop, dessert book, etc) but none of the items were over $25 individually but it came out nicely and she wrote in the thank you how ineat it was to get all of them together and how they had been hoping somebody would get them that way. Afterall – what good is an ice cream maker ball without a scoop? or without a book, etc? 🙂
Post # 14
I agree wit KitKat. It really depends on the norm in the area you live and how well you know the couple, more if it’s family. I usually give between $150 for someone I don’t know that well to $300 for close friends. I haven’t had a close family member get married since I’ve been a gift giving adult, (ie. not part of “the smith family”), but if/when that happens I’d give a bit more. And we usually add on like 50% if we’re going as a couple. This may seem like a lot but it really is standard in our area and circle.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
$100 is probably pretty standard–it’s always around what I try to spend if I can afford it. I’ve given less before, though: $80ish on registry gifts for a friend’s wedding (FI and I are dirt poor right now thanks to grad school and paying for our own wedding!), and $50 for a cousin’s wedding several years ago (I was in between jobs, and it just didn’t occur to me to give more at the time, anyway).
Post # 16
I pretty much give $100 for myself, $200 if I bring a date. That’s pretty much the norm where I’m from and my culture. But I’ve seen people give less if it’s a less formal wedding (backyard wedding, ceremony no reception, etc.) I think it really depends on each person’s financial situation and how well you know the couple.
If i’m in the wedding party and they have been generous with buying the dress and shoes for us and so forth, I triple the amount to help cover costs.
Although, I think it’s a little strange that we expect a little more when it comes to wealthier groups of people. They could have a big house, nice cars, lavish items but really have no cash flow. I’m in no way judging them but I don’t think the expectation is right when we’re a little disappointed. Wealthy doesn’t always stay side by side with generosity.