- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I am looking for some advice on how to respond to an inquiry from a family member. My FI and I have a wedding registry (a honeymoon registry actually – itemizing activities and pieces of the honeymoon). We did this for a few reasons: our wedding is being held across the country, so shipping gifts home could potentially cost a lot of money. And, we’re both in our mid-30s and realized we had zero need for any household items, as we’d been living on our own for 10-15 years each.
I had an email from a family member suggesting a gift – wine glasses from a local (local to the area where we are getting married) company. I agree they are GORGEOUS glasses. The family member asked if we would like those, but said if not they would buy something from the registry instead.
I am torn. We definitely don’t need more wine glasses (we have an entire cupboard full of stemware, and more in storage). But I am also of the belief that it is the choice of the guest to buy what they most want to give. The registry is there to say what we need and prefer, and if a guest wants to buy something else – well, that’s their choice. I don’t know if, basd on how she asked the question, I have free reign to be honest and say we would prefer something from the registry, or if I should just say we will appreciate any gift that is given.
What would you do?