Post # 1
So my wedding isn’t for another 4 months, but I just received the first gift, which was already shipped to my house by Bed, Bath and Beyond. I always assumed the stores where you register hold the gifts until the wedding. Am I supposed to wait until after the wedding to send a thank you card, or would it be ok to get it out of the way now? Is there some sort of etiquette that I’m unaware of…?
Post # 3
It’s accepted to send a thank you card whenever you receive the gift, whether it be before the wedding or the whole “up to a year after the wedding” rule.
Post # 4
I used to think you should wait until after the wedding as the gifts are sent to the couple.
I have since changed my mind.
I think it is reassuring for the giver to know within a reasonable period of time that their gift has arrived.
Post # 5
i would send the card now – otherwise the person is left wondering if you have received the gift and it may cause worry and a awkward phone calls
and its one less card you will have to do after the wedding – lucky girl!
Post # 6
I always thought you were not supposed to open them/send thank you cards until after the wedding… “just in case” I was told this by a friend when i noticed room full of bb&b boxes a few months before her wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I sent thank you cards as I got the gifts! It turned out to be SUPER helpful, because it’s only been three weeks since our wedding and I only have two thank you notes left to write – one for a gift I just got today!
Post # 8
I think that with the advent of web commerce, whcih involves mail delivery, more people like a thank-you note promptly because then they know the gift was received.
I don’t think there’s a hard-and-fast rule on this that says one can only mail thank-yous after the wedding!
Post # 9
I think either is fine. Just make certain that you keep a spreadsheet with the name of the gift giver, the gift, and whether or not a thank you was written so that you don’t lose track.
Post # 10
@amyisnice: I definitely agree, and would have put it in a separate room to wait to open until after the wedding…if it had been wrapped. 🙁
Post # 11
Send it now – here is a post I wrote about thank you notes that you may find helpful in the future..
Post # 12
I think you are supposed to send thank you cards as soon as you get the gift. It’s weird that they would send it so early.. but whatever. I think you have 2 weeks to send thank you’s if you receive it before the wedding, and 4 weeks if you receive it at or after the wedding (accourding to etiquette).