Post # 1
My fiance and I are moving to Finland (it’s whre im originally from and where i grew up) shortly after our Wedding. I want to let our guests know that we wont be able to take any gifts with us. But I don’t know how to word it on the invitations :/ So far all I’ve come up with is “As we will be moving abroad shortly after our wedding, …..” -___- I want to say we discourage traditional gifts because we can’t take them with us. But I just don’t know what is the proper and nice way to say this.
Help me bees! 🙂
Post # 3
I think the norm around the ‘Bee in this circumstance is to not register for anything and make sure people know by word of mouth. Tell family and close friends why and that money is appreciated, but gifts aren’t expected. Then be prepared to get some gifts, some cash, and some nothing.
Post # 4
“The happy couple will be relocating to Liinuska’s native Finland to begin their life together. They won’t be moving any personal effects, so no gifts please.”
You can’t ask for $ or gift cards, but if you say “no gifts” some people will take the hint. Unfortunately there’s no proper way to say “we don’t want a crockpot, but we’d love a check”.
Post # 5
@phillybride61513: <— this is a good way to put it, but I wouldn’t put it on the invitation itself. I would refer guests to the wedding website for more information (we used a separate insert, but you could always add a line at the bottom of the actual invitation) and also spread via word of mouth.
Post # 6
@DaneLady: agreed. improper to put it on the invite itself…
Post # 7
bluebelle23: That’s what I was thinking….which brings up another issue im having. My future in laws are footing most of the bill for the wedding. So she’s being very hands on. Im a graphic designer and designed beautiful intitations with my Faince and we love them. She has an issue with it not being traiditon and wants an invitation, a card for RSVP (which were doing by phone and email so no need to send anything back to us), a card with accommodations, and a card about gifts. If left up to my Fiance and I we would only have the invite, and an accommodations card for out of town guests ONLY. What your saying is exactly what I planned on doing…until she requested these extra cards.
I think were just gonna put our foot down and say that we simply want an invitation, a rsvp card (just to make her happy), and accommodations card for out of towners. Word of mouth will have to do for the gifts.
Thanks fir the reply 🙂
Post # 8
Oh and we don’t even need money as a gift. I just dont want a heap of gifts that we’ll have to get rid of. I’d feel bad if people are being generous and we can’t even take the things with us.
Post # 9
@phillybride61513: “The happy couple will be relocating to Liinuska’s native Finland to begin their life together. They won’t be moving any personal effects, so no gifts please.”
I like that! If the idea of word of mouth causes too much of a issue, I’ll probably word it like that. I want this wedding stuff to be pleasant and happy. We werent even wanting a wedding but my FMIL insisted on it, so I promised myself I wouldnt stress over anything too much.
Thanks every one for the replies ^.^
Post # 10
You could also request guests donate to a charity that you choose in advance, in lieu of gifts. If you don’t want any stuff and are not in a budget crunch, then diverting those gifts to a worthy cause is a win-win.
(funny how this suggestion frequently comes up when we are discussing whether or not to do favors but rarely comes up when we are discussing the gifts part….)
Post # 11
It is not proper to mention gifts in any way. It is technically impolite to mention gifts even in a “no gifts” situation.
I suspect that most people invited to your wedding, will know you, and will know that you are moving and that giving you a toaster will be inappropriate.