Post # 1
My fiance’ and I are having a Catholic ceremony where we’re going to need about four readers (three for the mass parts & one is a prayer in memory of my father who has passed).
I’m stuck at what to give the readers as presents and am wondering if there is an etiquette on what I should be gifting. I’ve read of people making the gifts themed to reading (like gift cards to a book store) but the readers I picked ironically do not read for fun 🙂 The ones I’ve selected (my fiance’ will be selecting the other two) are wonderful women in my life but I just have no clue on where to start or what to get them.
I do understand my description is vague and gifts can be personal so I don’t expect a direct answer for them, but for others who have selected gifts for their readers (religious or not), can you advise what you’ve all figured out? Any idea is a great idea!
Many thanks & best of luck to all of you!
Post # 2
msapollonia84: I’m hoping that my readers will be my MOH and best man for my FI because we already have gifts for them 🙂
Post # 3
Shop as though it was their birthdays. The best gifts are picked with the recipient in mind not the position they fill.
Post # 4
i’m shopping for them just like the bridal party – treating it as if its their birthday. granted, i am spending LESS on the readers since they’re doing a reading and the BP has been there and planned a lot more, which i think is completely fair. e.g one of our readers is Brazilian so I got her the OPI Brazil mini collection set (and I know she likes to paint her nails)… $15 and I think that plus a card is perfect.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
I’m giving my reader a Michael Kors best friend bracelett. She is one of my best friends in this stage of my life, but I wasn’t able to ask her to be a bridesmaid b/c I have 3 sisters and the other two standing up are my FSIL and my best friend I’ve known much longer. Anyways, I got the idea b/c we always shop around for BFF braceletes when we are out and haven’t found anything we like, the set I got her comes wtih two gold bangles with matching charms, it was originally $100 but I got them on clearance for $25, I think she will love it!
Post # 6
why does the gift have to be related to their role in the wedding? buy them something they would like.
do they like wine? buy them a bottle? is she fashionable? buy a scarf, necklace, or bracelette.
there are so many options.
Post # 7
I’ve read at wedding before and not received a gift. For me, it was a honor to do it. I never even considered a gift for that small part I had.
Post # 8
msapollonia84: I agree with the others- just buy based on the person. I don’t think it needs to be a gift like you would get for your BM or GM, etc. My aunt read at our wedding and I got her a thank you card and a bottle of whipped vodka because I know she loves it. She was thrilled and you could tell she wasn’t expect anything. Keep it simple- its mostly just a nice gesture of thanks!
Post # 9
Thanks everyone! I especially love the idea of the Michael Kors bracelet (or even coach!). And alcochol, of course, is never a bad option too 🙂
I agree, I don’t think the gift has to be about reading; I only stated what I have found and why what I found didn’t work for my situation. But yes, it can be specific toward them. I appreciate everyone’s responses and thank you again!
Post # 10
Our readers are our nieces (12 and 18yo)- I’m thinking a card with a gift card will be fine. I know it’s not personal, but I also know they’d love it 🙂