Gift Etiquette: Readers at Mass Wedding

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
555 posts
Busy bee

msapollonia84:  I’m hoping that my readers will be my MOH and best man for my FI because we already have gifts for them 🙂

Post # 3
3217 posts
Sugar bee

Shop as though it was their birthdays.  The best gifts are picked with the recipient in mind not the position they fill.

Post # 4
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i’m shopping for them just like the bridal party – treating it as if its their birthday. granted, i am spending LESS on the readers since they’re doing a reading and the BP has been there and planned a lot more, which i think is completely fair. e.g one of our readers is Brazilian so I got her the OPI Brazil mini collection set (and I know she likes to paint her nails)… $15 and I think that plus a card is perfect.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  kristen182.
Post # 5
1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

I’m giving my reader a Michael Kors best friend bracelett.  She is one of my best friends in this stage of my life, but I wasn’t able to ask her to be a bridesmaid b/c I have 3 sisters and the other two standing up are my FSIL and my best friend I’ve known much longer.  Anyways, I got the idea b/c we always shop around for BFF braceletes when we are out and haven’t found anything we like, the set I got her comes wtih two gold bangles with matching charms, it was originally $100 but I got them on clearance for $25, I think she will love it! 

Post # 6
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

why does the gift have to be related to their role in the wedding?  buy them something they would like.

do they like wine?  buy them a bottle?  is she fashionable?  buy a scarf, necklace, or bracelette.


there are so many options.

Post # 7
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve read at wedding before and not received a gift. For me, it was a honor to do it. I never even considered a gift for that small part I had.

Post # 8
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

msapollonia84:  I agree with the others- just buy based on the person. I don’t think it needs to be a gift like you would get for your BM or GM, etc. My aunt read at our wedding and I got her a thank you card and a bottle of whipped vodka because I know she loves it. She was thrilled and you could tell she wasn’t expect anything. Keep it simple- its mostly just a nice gesture of thanks! 

Good luck. 

Post # 10
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Our readers are our nieces (12 and 18yo)- I’m thinking a card with a gift card will be fine. I know it’s not personal, but I also know they’d love it 🙂

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