Post # 1
A good friend of mine is having a 1-month party for her new baby. It’s a Chinese tradition; I tried to do some searching online and it sounds like it’s appropriate to give a monetary gift in a red envelope to the family. I’m curious if anyone on the hive can give me pointers as to how much is appropriate/usual?? Is it kind of like a baby shower present type gift? birthday party type gift? I guess I’m waffling between a $50 gift and a $100 gift…. any thoughts are appreciated!
Post # 3
From my brief understanding of Chinese red envelopes, you should always give an even number. $88 I believe would be a very “lucky” amount, but I could be wrong about that.
I found this on a website
“For all occasions, certain amounts of money are to be avoided. Anything with a four is best avoided because å›› (sì, four) sounds similar toæ» (sÇ, death). Even numbers, except four, are better than odd. Eight is a particularly auspicious number. The money inside a red envelope should always be new and crisp. Folding the money or giving dirty or wrinkled bills is in bad taste. Coins and checks are avoided, the former because change is not worth much and the latter because checks are not widely used in Asia.”
note: The money I have received in envelopes has almost always been folded, except for the couple of longer envelopes we got for our wedding. Folding the money in half isn’t a big deal I don’t think. Now that I think about it though, it has never been old and crinkley though (but maybe not brand new).
Post # 4
Hopefully i can answer some of your questions. We’ve thrown two of these parties for my sister so far and i’ve attended a couple.
In terms of the type of gift, monetary and jewellery are quite popular. Yellow gold jewellery (usually baby bracelets), are given by family. In the past i’ve just done monetary gifts and my parents give jewellery. $50 to $100 sounds more than appropriate for a friend. Some people will also take into consideration if the party is held at home or in a banquet when deciding monetary amounts, but thats up to you.
actual gifts are great also, just less common and depending on if the couple had a babyshower they might already have everything. in the case of my sister, i had offered to buy her a Beba machine, and she accepted. if you’d like to do a gift, i would suggest maybe a baby blanket with their name and a pretty rabbit on it (since it is currently the year of the rabbit).