Post # 1
Hi! I’m new to weddingbee! I have lurked here for a while but am finally stepping out of my shell. I have a question I need some help with:
I was invited to a destination wedding in the Caribbean for the end of April 2012. I am unfortunately unable to attend. I would like to send a wedding gift but there’s another problem: she lives in Europe. On her wedding website it says “your presence at our wedding is plenty. Should you wish to provide a gift they would be grateful for a contribution towards their honeymoon”. I don’t know how to contribute to their honeymoon. I suppose I could call up the hotel they are staying at and offer to pay some money but how would I know that they would receive the gift? I can’t send cash for obvious reasons. Can I just send a congratulations card to Europe and consider that plenty? I wouldn’t mind going to Macy’s and picking something out there but then, what to choose? And how will it ship? I’m not extremely close to this friend anymore given that she moved to Europe quite some time ago. I don’t know what the proper etiquette in this case is.
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
I’d send a card. If you want to give a present, include a check. You could a note saying it’s for the honeymoon. If you want to make it more personal you could suggest something to do with the money, like a nice dinner or a round of cocktails or a day sight seeing.
Post # 4
Yikes! I had the exact same problem and was unable to write a check for obvious reasons.
What about going to your bank and getting Euros out and sending them to her in an envelope? That’s what I ultimately decided to do. But unfortunately the exchange rate sucked for me so it wasn’t much money to her, but was 1.5X to me.
Post # 5
I agree with JenGirl. As for the exchange issue, you could look into a cashier’s check or money order.
Post # 6
I would just send a card, but that’s mainly because I think asking for money for a honeymoon is rude. (Not getting into the honeymoon fund debate here, it’s just my opinion).
Post # 7
For exchange rates, it would be ~1.5x PLUS whatever they charge here to do the exchanging which I think is a huge rip-off. Does anyone know if sending a cashier’s check or money order require more fees since it is going to Europe?
Post # 8
I am pretty sure that Macys does ship internationally now. That may not solve the question of what to get, but I am sure you could find something! Not sure exactly what the shipping fees would be either.
Post # 9
@abbie017: 110% agree. People know that $ is always a welcome gift, there is no need for them to ask for it. I’d just send a nice card, or wait until after the wedding and send them something. I am the sort of person who prefers to give physical gifts, so I might even go out and get them a really nice vase or something decorative for the home.
Post # 10
I would just send a nice card.
Where in Europe is she? I just sent a couple a bottle of champagne & some truffles from a local London vendor. Might be something to look into (i.e. if there is a gift shop close to her that could send something small, but nice).
Post # 11
Thank you all for your input! I decided I’m just going to send them a card now. I forgot (I don’t know how I did, but I did) that I’m going to Europe in a few months so I think when I’m there I’ll send her something! It should be much easier that way. The gift might be a few months past the wedding date but I think she would still appreciate it. I don’t really like giving cash for gifts either because for me it’s more fun to open up physical presents so I like to give physical presents.
Post # 12
The exchange rate is 1.33. So if you were going to give her $100, it’s 74.9738 Euros. The exchange fees aren’t that high.
I personally couldn’t think of any alternative. I took out money at the time and was charged 3% exchange fee plus $5. Errrr. I hate exchanging money!I’m not sure that your friend could cash a cashiers check in Europe? I know that a personal US check can’t be cashed there.
Oh I just read your response. I guess I’m a practical person and I always prefer to give cash.
Post # 13
This may not be an “elegant” solution – but can you send a prepaid Visa card?