- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hi Ladies–So here’s my question I’d love Advice on:
My fiance’s sister is getting married just a few months before we are, and I don’t want what we should give them as a gift.
It seems silly if we write them a check for X amount, because then will they turn around and give us the same?
I was thinking of giving some gifts, but they wrote on their wedding site that they want Cash instead for a house (which I think of as a tad rude).
They are having us spend 4 nights in a hotel (granted 1 of them is voluntary), as well as fly the 2 of us to NYC and back. My fiance is also in the wedding and wearing a $200+ outfit.
They are going to fly to our wedding in Ohio and stay 2 nights at a (much cheaper) hotel. The sister is in our wedding and spent about the same on her outfit.
I don’t really want to care about money but I don’t want to appear cheap. On the other hand, I’m not eager to spend Tons on their gift because we are already spending $1000++ attending their wedding and also hosting our own just a few months later.
The sister and her fiance probably make a combined 100k$ ish, a little less than what we make combined. Not that that matters. Any thoughts or suggestions?