Post # 1
We have a personal relationship with our officiant and therefore she has refused payment for our ceremony, but asked instead we make a donation with what money we would have used to a good cause. We are happy to do this (donating to marriage equality initiatives, in case you’re wondering) but I also want to give her a gift. What do you think would be appropriate?
Post # 3
If you know of something that she collects you could get her something for her collection. You could also get a good photo of all of you on your wedding day and have it printed and framed for her. Of gift certificates to the spa are always nice. Everyone can use a good massage
Post # 4
We gave ours an engraved ("Holy Spirits") flask embedded in a "Holy Book" to our priest. He got the biggest kick out of it. But then, we are Episcopalians and have a "drinking at the beach after church" relationship with our priest. I’m guessing this would be innappropriate for many people. hmmmm….a gift card for some place she likes is simple. For most of our gifts, I either kicked around on esty.com or perpetualkid.com to see what struck me as "them".
Post # 5
A friend of mine made a basket for their officiant/friend. He was really into Zen stuff, so my friend got him a book, bath stuff, candles, rocks, and some typical "guys" stuff,. He really dug it apparently
Post # 6
Our officiant was a friend who also refused "payment". Instead, we gave her a gift certificate for a nice restaurant in town.
Post # 7
Though it might not be the most original idea ever, we gave our officiants gift cards to Barnes and Noble. One of them came from out of town, so that ensured that he would be able to use it anywhere… although there was also a Barnes and Noble right down the street from his hotel so it might have been used immediately. We figured, "who wouldn’t like some free books/CDs/DVDs/magazines/coffee/stationery/etc."
Post # 8
I think a basket of delicious goodies is always good and a bit more exciting than a gift certificate. Harry & David make fruit and candy arrangements that are wonderfully presented—as long as you know that she likes certain foods and doesn’t have major food allergies.
Post # 9
I think all of the above ideas are wonderful! I know this is an obvious one, but I think that a kind letter letting her know how much it meant to you that she held your ceremony would be greatly appreaciated. No one every really remembers the gifts, but they do remember the sentiments & moments!
As for our gift– My FI is from KY and is a Maker’s Mark fanatic (I think its a requirement). We are going to make up a basket for our Priest & his wife filled with Maker’s Mark Chocolates, coffee beans, bbq sauce, glasses… oh and of course the hooch! They’re both foodies & our Priest is addicted to all things chocolate, yet he’s so thin! Life can be unfair sometimes. I just need to say the word & I’m up 5lbs!
Post # 10
If you personally know the officiant offer them a basket of goodies with a gift card, etc.
Amazon Gift Card with a basket of Chocolates goes a long way!
Best of luck.