Post # 1
what are you getting your parents and your FI’s parents as a gift?
please help! I’m stuck!
also – are you doing joint gifts (like 1 shared gift for mom & dad) or seperate gifts for each parent?
Post # 3
@WestCoast: I posted about this same issue and didn’t get much advice, but here is what I eventually decided on:
For my parents, who are paying for 99.9% of the wedding:
My mom I got a Tiffany necklace and a Coach purse. The Tiffany necklace is an infinity symbol, because we’re infinitely grateful for her love and support.
My dad I got a really nice watch that is a pilot’s watch since he’s on his way to getting his pilot’s license.
I think each of their gifts came to around $450 total, so about $900 together. FI and I saved up for these gifts because my parents have been so supportive financially, not just for the wedding, so we wanted their gifts to be more substantial.
For FI’s parents, who are paying for ZILCH, we are getting them a framed print from a local artist of a local scene. They’ll love it. It will cost about $200.
Post # 4
@NLbride: Good lord. That makes me feel effing cheap.
We’re getting FI’s parents a photo album from Shutterfly. Hopefully on sale.
Post # 5
This is a great question. I’m trying to figure that out myself.
I keep seeing these embroidered handkerchiefs on Etsy so i’m thinking about ordering those for everyone….i’m just trying to figure out what to write on them…
That’s just a small token gift though, i’m not sure what the real gift will be.
Maybe restaurant gift certificates.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
This is kind of “standard” but if they’re not paying attention to wedding blogs, I don’t they’d know that.
I’m doing an embroidered hankie for each parent with a sweet message, and then an IOU for a photobook and a canvas print when we get our wedding pics back. Both sets of parents are chipping in a LOT (in our world) of money so I hope this expresses our appreciation.
Here’s a link for a really pretty hanky (the price is for 2):
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
We didn’t give gifts to parents. We only gave gifts to each other, the bridal party, and the flower girl. Parents and grandparents got bouts and corsages.
Post # 8
I think I’m just going to make them photo albums after the wedding and call that their gift. I’d like to get something for my parents who have contributed about 40%. I’m thinking about getting them a reservation at a nice bed & breakfast in their hometown.
Post # 9
@WestCoast: We didn’t buy them gifts.
Post # 10
@WestCoast: We’re getting my parents a gift certificate to a bed and breakfast in Napa. We will also pay for their flights when they decide to go. My parents are paying for almost the entire wedding, so we wanted to give them something special. I think we are getting FI’s parents a gift certificate to a nice restaurant near them.
Our photography package also includes 2 parents albums, so we will give them those after the wedding.
Post # 11
I’ve been thinking about that for a while now. Gonna post so I can follow. 🙂 My parents are helping a lot with out wedding so I am for sure going to get them each some sort of thank you gift. FI parents aren’t paying a dime so I can’t see us getting them something; I wouldn’t see the point.
Post # 12
@vorpalette: haha i feel cheap now too
the photo albums are a great idea!
Post # 13
Thanks so much bees.
I found this link which is kind of good:
ive been thinking of getting our mothers pearl earrings (I saw a nice pair with a pearl drop on bluenile), but I was wondering itier are supposed to get only 1 gift for mom + dad.
I really like the idea of an IOU a photo book too!
thanks bees – if you have any more ideas, please keep them coming!
Post # 14
@nyCheesecake: Don’t feel cheap! My parents have seriously given me (and my FI) so much over time. My parents bought me my first car, they gave us a generous amount towards our down payment on our house, AND they’re paying for almost all of our wedding. So this is our way of thanking them for allll of that. Plus I had what my brother and SIL gave to keep in mind when I chose gifts.
I wouldn’t be giving my in-laws anything nearly as expensive but it was up to my FI and that’s what he decided on. 🙂
We are giving photobooks to our parents for XMas (that’s the plan) but they’re included in our photography package. We didn’t have an engagement session otherwise we’d do photobooks or something with those pictures. I think it’s an awesome idea.
Post # 15
@NLbride: Mine are paying for the whole reception and my dress, but i’m paying for the rest of the costs (photo, video, dj, limos, flowers, etc) all out of pocket.
I feel bad bc i just splurged on my shoes and on all my other expenses, and now i don’t have much left to buy them gifts :-X
Post # 16
@nyCheesecake: Just do what you can. Any thoughtful gift is a great gift, and I’m sure they’ll be appreciative. You can also make this years Xmas a bigger one, too by giving them regular gifts PLUS thank you albums or something. That gives you a few extra months to save. 🙂