Post # 1
I asked my fiance if he gave his brother a gift when he stood in his wedding (before we were dating). He said “No, my brother wouldn’t accept it, he said only the groom gives the groomsmen gifts for helping out by standing in the wedding”.
I honestly don’t know the proper etiquette in this situation. I’ve only stood in one wedding (as an adult) and I gave the couple cash. I assumed that was the appropriate thing to do.
What say you, bees?
Post # 3
This is news to me let me see if I got this right so if your a bridesmaid your supposed to give the bride a gift or do you mean vice versa? I’ve only seen one wedding where the bride and groom gave out gifts to their wedding party.
Post # 4
I have never heard of a member of the bridal party not giving a gift-
I mean there are special circumstances such as:
-very expensive destination weddings- where they paid for their own air fare/hotel etc.
-a person doesnt have the money to give a gift.
Post # 5
My bridesmaids didn’t give me anything. I didn’t expect anything, either.
When I’ve been a bridesmaid, I have given gifts.
Post # 6
I didn’t give a wedding gift as a bridesmaid. I gave a bridal shower gift, bought my dress, paid for stuff at the bachelorette party, etc. I didn’t think you were supposed to give a wedding gift as well.
Post # 7
I think that if your a cash strapped student, it’s ok not to give a gift as a wedding party memeber because presumably you’ve incurred a lot of cost to be in the wedding. But otherwise i think it’s normal to give a gift as a wedding party member.
Post # 8
I have been MOH twice and didn’t give any additional gift. However, both weddings were mostly DIY and I helped a lot with food and decorations, also I came up with programme and was the MC for both weddings. I regarded my help as a gift to the couples. Both brides were my MOHs, and they didn’t give any additional gift either, but their help with our wedding was priceless and I sincerely didn’t wish for anything else.
Post # 9
@FewChaMrsBrown: I had this same question! I’m in a wedding in a few weeks. I helped pay for the bridal shower and bought flights to attend the shower and for me and FI to go to the wedding. I’ll probably just give a small gift.
Post # 10
I don’t think its customary for the bridal party to give gifts. They spend so much on dresses or tux rental, accessories, stag/hen and bachelor/bachelorette parties, the bridal shower, make up, and often spend time helping the bride with other little things. If its a destination wedding, then they are spending even more money for travel!
Post # 11
I’ve always given gifts when I’ve been a bridesmaid. It was an honor to be part of their weddings and I knew the expenses associated before accepting. I see no reason why the bridal party wouldn’t give gifts.
Post # 12
@FewChaMrsBrown: I’ve always given a gift
Post # 13
We’ve given gifts in both weddings we were a part of. When I was a BM, my dress was very expensive (gorgeous and I’ve worn it a few times since), so we adjusted that amount we spent on the couple. When my FI was a GM, I was the photographer, so we just gave them a bunch of small and very unique gifts, and spent less than what we would have if we were just guests. I think it’s all relative to their financial situation (my brother’s hours at work were just cut, and money is tight, so we have told him we will not accept a gift from him) and your expectations of them over the course of the engagement/wedding (Were they required to fly in or get a hotel? Did you have a crazy expensive bachelor/ette in Vegas? Is it a destination wedding?).