gift giving as part of the bridal party?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you give a gift as part of the bridal party?
    Yes, Duh! : (36 votes)
    84 %
    No, Standing in their wedding is my gift to them. : (7 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    This is news to me let me see if I got this right so if your a bridesmaid your supposed to give the bride a gift or do you mean vice versa? I’ve only seen one wedding where the bride and groom gave out gifts to their wedding party.

    Post # 4
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    1168 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I have never heard of a member of the bridal party not giving a gift-

    I mean there are special circumstances such as:

    -very expensive destination weddings- where they paid for their own air fare/hotel etc. 

    -a person doesnt have the money to give a gift. 

    Post # 5
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    8708 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My bridesmaids didn’t give me anything. I didn’t expect anything, either.

    When I’ve been a bridesmaid, I have given gifts.

    Post # 6
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    687 posts
    Busy bee

    I didn’t give a wedding gift as a bridesmaid. I gave a bridal shower gift, bought my dress, paid for stuff at the bachelorette party, etc. I didn’t think you were supposed to give a wedding gift as well.

    Post # 7
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    5204 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think that if your a cash strapped student, it’s ok not to give a gift as a wedding party memeber because presumably you’ve incurred a lot of cost to be in the wedding.  But otherwise i think it’s normal to give a gift as a wedding party member.

    Post # 8
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have been MOH twice and didn’t give any additional gift. However, both weddings were mostly DIY and I helped a lot with food and decorations, also I came up with programme and was the MC for both weddings. I regarded my help as a gift to the couples. Both brides were my MOHs, and they didn’t give any additional gift either, but their help with our wedding was priceless and I sincerely didn’t wish for anything else.

    Post # 9
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @FewChaMrsBrown:  I had this same question!  I’m in a wedding in a few weeks.  I helped pay for the bridal shower and bought flights to attend the shower and for me and FI to go to the wedding.  I’ll probably just give a small gift.

    Post # 10
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    62 posts
    Worker bee

    I don’t think its customary for the bridal party to give gifts.  They spend so much on dresses or tux rental, accessories, stag/hen and bachelor/bachelorette parties, the bridal shower, make up, and often spend time helping the bride with other little things.  If its a destination wedding, then they are spending even more money for travel!  

    Post # 11
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    1555 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve always given gifts when I’ve been a bridesmaid. It was an honor to be part of their weddings and I knew the expenses associated before accepting. I see no reason why the bridal party wouldn’t give gifts. 

    Post # 13
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    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’ve given gifts in both weddings we were a part of. When I was a BM, my dress was very expensive (gorgeous and I’ve worn it a few times since), so we adjusted that amount we spent on the couple. When my FI was a GM, I was the photographer, so we just gave them a bunch of small and very unique gifts,  and spent less than what we would have if we were just guests.  I think it’s all relative to their financial situation (my brother’s hours at work were just cut, and money is tight, so we have told him we will not accept a gift from him) and your expectations of them over the course of the engagement/wedding (Were they required to fly in or get a hotel? Did you have a crazy expensive bachelor/ette in Vegas? Is it a destination wedding?).

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