(Closed) Gift-Giving Etiquette

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

It’d be a very nice gesture — but it’s totally up to you!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t think you would have to, gifts are just nice gestures not obligations.  But it would be nice!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yes – it’s totally up to you, not required or expected. I think it would be a nice gesture, but not required. Even just a card or note would be nice, too, and you could suggest meeting for dinner together or something the next time you’re close.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree, it’s a nice gesture, but you don’t have to. I would maybe send her something unique from Mexico that she can’t get in the States.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Well, I’m not sure what you should do.  But if a friend didn’t invite me to her wedding, I probably would be a little sour grapes and not send a gift. Frown

Of course if there was some way, to know if she made an etiquette error (by not sending you an invitation simply because you were out of the country), then I would send a gift.  I wouldn’t punish her for not knowing any better.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would probably send a nice card and something small. I think if you sent her a grand gift, maybe she would find it rude- like, “you didn’t invite me so I’m showing you up!! HA!” Perhaps she was having a smaller or family-only wedding, and didn’t invite many friends. A small gesture would be appreciated for sure though!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i love to give gifts—-so i would send one anyway! but, it’s up to you. never feel obligated.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree it is totally up to you.  Maybe she had a small wedding with only family present or your invitation got lost in the mail.  You just never know.  If she sent you something then obvisouly your good friends.  But you don’t have to send anything. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so glad you posted this…I had the same question.  I don’t live out of the country, but across the country.  I wouldn’t have flown out for her wedding, but she didn’t know that (all my family is there) 

I’m a little miffed I didn’t get invited (because since when do you not invite people you think can’t make it?), but I just can’t decided whether or not to send a gift or a card.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch

I think it would be a really nice thing to do 🙂

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