Post # 1
Alright, we’re in countdown mode for… out parents to meet. FI and I have been together for two years, but the ‘rents haven’t met due to one simple fact- they live on different continents (not to mention speak different languages!).
That’s all about to change as my parents are headed to Italy to see where we’re living and meet his family. We’re super excited about it, but also pretty stressed, as FI is the only one of any of us who’s bilingual.
My mom is especially stressed as she’d like to bring some nice host/hostess type gifts for his parents, sister and brother-in-law. She’s getting a box of Godiva for his father who’s a chocolate fanatic, but the rest have proven more difficult. We’ve ruled out alcohol and "souvenir" type gifts as that’s what I’ve given them in the past. She also would prefer not to give soap or other "personal" gifts as it’s the first time they’ve met.
Anyone have some creative ideas? I’m really stuck for suggestions! Anyone in a similar situation where you and FI’s parents don’t speak the same language, or didn’t meet until well into your engagement? How did it go?
Post # 3
A lovely stationary set? A nice pair of monogrammed guest hand towels? A charming set of espresso cups or a tea pot?
Post # 4
A nice bottle of wine or champagne to celebrate the families joining.
Post # 5
A really nice candle? That’s always my default-slightly-awkward-situation gift. My mom often does baskets with with stuff like a nice bamboo cutting board, pretty kitchen towels, etc just depending on the person’s interests.
Post # 6
how about something unique from the city they’re from? Find a local store with something that represent the city so it’s an introduction to them of where they (and you) are from. Think of your favorite store from this city where you’d pick up things that you like and enjoy. This way it has a little bit more meaning and can help in possibly understanding you and your parents a bit more.
Also, try to convince your parents to learn a little italian (I’m assuming that’s what they speak since you’re in Italy?), even a few words just to get by. I studied in Rome for a semester and while I wasn’t fluent by any means, i got a much warmer response from people when I just tried to speak their language. A small gesture can mean so much.
Post # 7
i echo alli’s sentiment. just basic greetings and polite words such as ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ would go over well, i believe.
I would ask your FI what woudl be good gifts for his family. he should know best. no need to spin one’s wheels for no good reason.
Post # 8
I like Alli’s idea of seeing if there’s anything unique about where your parents are coming from. For example, from San Francisco, you have Ghiradelli chocolates, wine from Napa, salt water taffy from Atlantic City, Simon Pearce blown glass or cabot cheese basket from Vermont, maple syrup from New England….
Post # 9
Thanks girls! I’m passing on all your great suggestions to my mom- hopefully she’ll be inspired!