- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So DH and I were married last year. Prior to our marriage I was working in Japan. We had a couple from Japan send us some extremely generous wedding gifts – She is a good friend of mine, but even so, they bought DH the gaming console they knew DH wanted and couldn’t afford himself, and me a really nice blender. They are really kind, generous, non-materialistic people. When I went to thank them, their simple response was “Well, we had the money and knew you guys would appreciate them, so why not?”.
Their wedding is coming up. Because of the type of people they are, they won’t be expecting us to match expense. The thing is, DH and I have had really bad luck recently with regards to finances. We try to be responsible with the money we do have, but we stretch and stretch every cent – at the moment our only debt is our student loans. I’m in grad school and tutor part time and watch a friend’s baby – I am too sick to do anything else, and he works in a grocery warehouse as he couldn’t find a job in his field – we are trying to get him into school this year. We lost a lot of money in immigration and I didn’t get a work permit for 6 months. We also have a surprise pregnancy (surprise as in concieved on cycle day 6 with PCOS!). Simply trying to pay our tax bill on his overseas pension, our copay for the birth and buy the absolute basics for baby is pushing us to the brink (pack’n’play/ walmart crib and carseat/ basic cloth diapers level basics, nothing fancy). We are both in our late 20s and live with our in-laws to make ends meet.
Clearly we cannot afford to buy gifts as expensive as the ones they bought us. I have been trying to find a way to at least try and match in thought and meaning (and time commitment – it took them time to earn what they spent on us). At the moment I am thinking of doing a large quilled picture. I guess I just feel like I’m offering them something cheap when they sacrificed for us. If anyone has any other idea of a gift we can make or give affordably, please let me know. As I said, they are not materialistic people and I think would love something that took a long time to make, handmade, but I want more ideas..