Post # 1
I am due to be a bridesmaid in my beloved sisters wedding later this year. I’m very excited and I’m so incredibly happy for her. Two questions though that hopefully some of you can help me with?
1) does my wedding gift have to be something for both bride and groom? I am very close to my sister, but I moved away (a four hour flight away) not long after she got serious with her Fiance. So although I know him a little, it’s my sister that I keep thinking about for gifts!
2) this doesn’t have to be part of the gift, it can be something else, but I’m really into having traditions they we follow for these big life events. She is the eldest of four sisters and the first to get married (the others and I are all bridesmaids). I know that starting traditions is a strange concept, but I’d really like some ideas of things to give/say/do that will make her feel special and that we can pass on/do again when it’s our turn in years to come. I feel bad that I’m so far away and haven’t been able to help much with planning, other than being a listening ear on the other end of the phone!
Post # 3
I think that if you are willing to get two gifts one for the shower and one for the wedding that the one for the wedding could be for both of them and the one for the shower more personal and relating to your close relationship.
As for something you and your sisters can share why don’t you get something for her to wear that you can all use for your wedding too (the garter or a piece of jewelery to represent you all)
Post # 4
I like the idea of a piece of jewelery, she can use it as something new and then you all can use it as something borrowed :p, if you are all doing that sort of thing.
otherwise you can maybe meet up the eve of the wedding and either write a letter or maybe do a slide show showing all your memories together, it can help revive the old better days and maybe a bit of quality time with all your sisters 🙂
Post # 5
Neat! My spouse’s family had two traditions which we continued:
1 – using a cake knife that belonged to grandma
2 – having a pair of silver candle sticks present, which also belonged to grandma (great grandma?)
Being the youngest cousin, the older ones have done this for a good long time already!
Could you start something similar? We had a ridiculous thong that we passed along in high school for at least three years 🙂
Is there something traditional/matching that everyone would like and you could purchase to ensure everyone gets it? Are there any family traditions that you could provide the items for?
Again, part of my spouse’s family has a tradition of a lobster dinner on Dec 24th. For us it was neat to get our own set of butter dishes, picks and crackers, from a cousin that we share that tradition with. Do you have something similar that you could get a really nice set put together for?
[okay, seriously so many dangling prepositions up there, my apologies]
hopefully I’ll be back with more ideas later…
Post # 6
Thanks everyone for ideas. I like the jewellery idea, but I’m worried that something will no suit all of us. I’m thinking earrings or a bracelet could be simple and maybe a necklace is likely to be a ‘statement piece’ that our individual styles might not all suit.
I also like the cake knife thing. I feel like that could be a timeless thing that could be used for ages.
Thanks for suggestions! I’ll share them with the other sisters and see if we can’t agree on something!!
Post # 7
Is there an item in your parent’s house that has meaning to all of you? Would you be able to search out some and buy them up?
If storage isn’t a terribly huge concern, can you buy 4x whatever item you choose and then keep them until the appropriate time?
Is there a poem or piece of artwork that would have meaning to all of you? Artwork by a specific artist? Do you have a cottage where you could get a photo, blow it up and frame it?
Post # 7
My experience has been gifts for showers and cash for actual weddings