Gift opening dilemna – to have or not to have

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
45001 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have always hated day -after gift openings and never had one myself. I think it’s so rude to open gifts in front of other people, so everyone’s gifts are mentally comapred to everyone else’s. (Yes, I realize the hypocrisy of this postion as I love a good shower).

Boring, boring, boring. I would rather have a lazy sleep- in day as a guest, go out for brunch etc with friends or family I haven’t seen for a while then get on my way home. Even if I lived locally, I don’t want to come, thanks very much.

Post # 4
8104 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

People actually do this?  And invite all the out of town guests to participate?!  That’s not only  boring, it’s rude.  At least a shower is thrown for you by others.  

You are not a child at a birthday party who can’t delay gratification one second longer. Open gifts and acknowledge them in private or in the presence of immediate family only, if you must. 

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d never heard of a “Gift Opening” as an actual event before the Bee.  Not only would I not want to have one, I definitely wouldn’t want to GO to one!  Doesn’t sound like you really want to have one either… so don’t! Especially not if it’s just going to be something to make you stress out the day after your wedding. Who needs that?!

Post # 6
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d say do an open invite for anyone (including out of town guests) to join you at the Riders game!  There is no fan quite like a riders fan, and it would be a fun post-wedding activity!  I know if I went to a wedding in Regina as an out-of-town guest, I’d love to go to a game while in town! 

Post # 7
10500 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s traditional with my relatives, but few people actually open the gifts that day anymore.  I’ve never known the bride and groom to host it though!

We had a BBQ that the ILs hosted.  We had a good time.

Post # 9
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AB Bride:  Right?! I was always amazed how many Riders fans would bus in for a game in Edmonton, I can’t even imagine what they are like in SK!

Post # 10
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I personally really dislike gift openings as well. You are right they are boring, I have been to one or two, they are also kind of awkward, and impersonal. 

My mom asked if FI and I were doing one, because she wanted to see what we all got lol. I said absolutely not, but invited her to come over for dinner a few days after our honeymoon, after we had opened our presents. (She lives two hours away). She can check out what we got then. She’s fine with that, and we don’t have the pressure of opening presents in front of an audience. 


Post # 11
850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Definitely take charge of this! I love the suggestion of inviting guests to the game with a casual BBQ afterwards.

We hosted out-of-town guests for coffee, fruit and pastries from 9-noon the morning after, because we genuinely wanted to and it was really fun, but exhausting! Our families had to fly in, so we were really happy to show them our house for the first time. But I was so tired after, my mom had to vacuum for me! Also, most of our guests mailed their gifts ahead of time, so there were no gifts to open.

Post # 12
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

don’t do it. it’s boring for you and your guests.

Post # 13
3041 posts
Sugar bee

@spacey:  I’ve never heard of this. I’d say have a casual get together for whomever would like to stop by. I wouldn’t open the gifts tho unless someone specifically asked you to open theirs. 

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