Post # 1
Well, my mother brought it up last weekend and basically told me you need to have a gift opening. But she said it should be held at my house, and that I need to invite all the out of town guests (yes I know its tradition), but I do NOT want those guests at my wedding (yes, I lost that battle with my mother lol), let alone entertaining them at my house.
There is a football game that day (2:30) and I would really like to spend it with my soon to be husband at the stadium watching the game…since we are avid football fans. Plus I have no interest in waking up early, leaving the hotel, hauling my presents over, cleaning my house and having to host 20+ people over.
I find gift openings to be very boring. I would rather have MY bridal party along with my parents and FIL over for some drinks and BBQ later in the evening. No presents being opened. Something nice and relaxing.
What are your thoughts on this?
Thanks for reading my rant 🙂
Post # 3
I am questioning the gift opening as well. I hate opening gifts in front of a big group of people, my bridal shower was bad enough! I don’t kno what I will do personally but I think if you feel strongly about it, just skip it. No one will remember or care in 6 months
Post # 4
@WillowTreeWade: That’s what I was thinking. Frankly, if people are that deadset on being there…then well, they can come the week after and look at all the gifts. But I am going to be exhausted, and don’t feel like entertaining in a formal fashion.
Post # 5
@spacey: are these wedding gifts? definately i would just do it with your and your husband and if you need a few other people at the most.
Post # 6
I’ve never even heard of these, but I say absolutely not. Uncomfortable, you need to spend time with your husband and not random people you don’t like, and how rude insisting that it be at your house.
Tell her no. End of story.
Post # 7
I don’t blame you in the slightest. Why should you have to host people (that you never really wanted) at your house the day after you hosted them at your wedding? That being said, if we had a yard (we live in a condo downtown), we would have a BBQ with JUST our wedding party and parents and maybe our overseas guests, but that’s more so that we could visit with the people we are closest with and that travelled so far to be with us at our wedding. I wouldn’t have invited all our out of town guests, because all of our guests are from out of town (I live 4 hours from where I grew up, FI’s family is mostly from overseas and isn’t coming).
The day after our wedding we are doing breakfast just the 2 of us (despite repeated offers from our parents to dine with them and their guests), and running away back to our little condo downtown. We even discussed going to the baseball game (we have season’s passes, so that will depend on how tired we feel). My parents are sticking around for a few days, so we’ll get together with them and my FI’s parents and open gifts on the Monday or Tuesday.
Post # 8
Is this for Wedding gifts? Or bridal shower gifts? For bridal shower gifts you can just ask people not wrap the gifts so you can just enjoy more time with your guest. If you mean wedding gifts, I think that’s very strange. In my family ( and mostly everyone else I know) we only give money at a wedding. So to ask people to come over and watch you open up 100 cards filled with cash is definitely strange. That’s something the bride and groom do alone.
Post # 9
@spacey: I’m not having a gift opening, and every married lady who I’ve said this to responded with “Good for you!” They’re awkward for everyone, you’re on display, it’s like a child’s birthday party and a ridiculous tradition. I slammed the brakes on that idea ASAP and told my mother in no uncertian terms that I’ll want to spend my first day as a married woman with my husband, not opening presents in front of people who either don’t want to be there or are just nosey. I think guests would really rather have a day to themselves and a thank-you card than stare at me as I awkwardly open gifts. How did things end up?