Post # 1
My mom bought my FI and I an engagement gift luggage set. She hasn’t given it to us yet but showed me and wanted to know whether or not I like it. I told her I wanted to run it by FI but the truth is I don’t really like it and don’t know what we’d do with it.
We only use carry on size bags. These are 3 bags 2 of which are really big. The quality is not good. She said she paid $50 for all three and my guess is that our current carry on bags are better quality. We also live in a small apartment and don’t know where we would put them.
She said that if we don’t like them she will give them to someone else as a wedding gift but I feel kind of guilty saying I don’t want them. What would you do?
Post # 3
Maybe avoid telling her the part about not liking them and not good quality, and focus on the part where you only use carry-on size? If you never need a bag that big, then she’d be better off giving them to someone who might use them….
Post # 4
Well, my mom has absolutely no problems telling people what she does and doesn’t want for a gift, so I’d have no problems telling her I didn’t want them.
The truth is if you take them, you won’t use them and they’ll be a waste.
Does she get her feelings hurt easily?
I would just tell her your apt is too small and you only use carry on sizes and you love and appreciate the idea, but you already have really good luggage and you think she should give it to someone else and not spend her money getting you two an engagement gift, bc you’re just so happy to have her love and support!
Post # 5
Just let her know they’re “not your style” and that you prefer carry-on bags. It’s a fair explanation without hurting her feelings/ causing you guilt, and someone else may love them and get to use them.