Post # 1
I don’t want to do one, and neither does Fiance.
FI’s family (and most of mine) aren’t exactly the most well to do people (not being rude it’s just a fact), and I’d feel bad if I had a registry with a bunch of things on it that they couldn’t give.
Sure, it’d be nice to have some things for the house, but we’re already pretty self sufficient, so anything extra would just be nice of the person giving the gift.
Should I just say something like, “We’re not registered anywhere…any gift/donation is fine, and it’s fine to do nothing at all besides be there with us on this day?”
What do you think? That doesn’t sound like I’m being rude, right, because that is NOT my intent. I just don’t want someone having to go out of their means to buy something we may never, ever use or need.
Post # 3
@StefLovesJamie: If you don’t register people might buy you things you don’t want. I would do a small inexpensive registry and spread the word verbally that your guests’ prescence is enough of a gift. I would never show up to a wedding empty handed though and I assume most of your guests wouldn’t either.
Post # 4
I think you should just do a registry (maybe with lower-price point items) and not assume that just because they’re not well off that they don’t want to gift you anything. We had people who were not well-off/unemployed at our wedding and they still chose $35 – $50 items off our registry. Even when I was a poor struggling student working in retail, I still scraped together enough for a nice gift.
You can still tell people, via word of mouth, that no gifts are necessary, but if they insist on knowing where you registered, then you are registered at x and y.
Post # 5
@asscherlover: +1. Most people will probably get a gift anyway, so it’s best to make sure it’s actually something you want/will use. Register in a variety of price points to make sure there are options that everyone can afford.
Post # 6
Most people will at least get you something small. I would do a small registry so that you do not end up with 100 dish towels and 3 cork screws 😉
Post # 7
So I talked to Fiance, and he agreed that we should do a registry with just the items that we really need (mostly kitchen things), and let people choose from that. That way, it’s not unnecesary items we’ll never use and it’s not crazy expensive stuff.