(Closed) Gift Registry etiquette?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

With the wedding still being a month out, the only gifts you’ll probably be receiving are from people that are not coming.  I imagine people are going to buy you gifts the week or so befor eyour wedding.  My wedding is 5/9 and the only gifts I have received are from the shower and people not coming.  I told my mom and granny to spread the word and so far it has worked fine.  Did you do a website and include the registry info?

Post # 4
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Do you have a wedding website? You could email guests and invite them to the website to check out last minute details on the wedding (directions, lodging, registry…)

I think as far as "word of mouth" goes, if people ask, friends & family tell. I don’t think it needs to be a responsibility of the bridal party to go out and just tell others.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I really thought people would buy more presents off our registry at this point, too but no bueno.  After freaking out a little () I decided that people on WB do know what they’re talking about and that guests just don’t buy gifts in advance.  My first shower is Saturday, and at this point there are like three things bought off our registry.  I’m just trusting that people will buy things before (like the DAY before or HOURS before) an event.

If you do have a website, FutureMrsMorgan’s advice is solid.  Otherwise, are your family members in the loop?  People might ask your mom, FMIL, siblings, ect… and they might not feel as weird about spreading the news.  Did your bridal party say why they felt uncomfortable doing this?  I mean, I don’t think they should mass email your entire guest list with links to your registry, but I also don’t think it’s too big of a demand for them to inform guests who directly ask for the information.

Post # 6
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Where are you registered?  Many retailers appear on http://www.weddingchannel.com or http://www.theknot.com ‘s listings when guests search your name.  I don’t know all of the retailers they list, but Bloomingdales, Williams Sonoma, Amazon and Bed Bath and Beyond are all there and many guests know to search there for gifts.

 

Best of luck to you! 

Post # 7
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820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Tell the wedding party that if ASKED, to spread the word. Also, tell the moms, grandmas, and aunts. The ladies in the family are the best ones to get the word out! 

Post # 8
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57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Don’t worry, people generally ask around if they don’t know where you are registered. Or they check the websites of common registry stores to see if your name shows up (probably way less common, but I did this once, before I knew about the registry listings on weddingchannel.com)

Post # 9
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Newbee

  Well I’m sorry that I don’t know the answer to your question but you did make me think of one that’s been on my mind. If you give a gift at the shower, do you also have to give one at the wedding too? I’ve seen this done a lot lately, very expensive gifts BTW, and it makes me look cheap. After you add in the cost of a new dress, shoes, etc, out of town lodging, gas, everything, attending a friends wedding can run into the $1,000. to $2,000. range. I think that’s asking too much of guests.

  Back to your initial question. Have you actually checked your registry to see what has been purchased? With delivery fees running $30. to $100. many guests will choose to bring the gift straight to wedding themselves.

Post # 10
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820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Yes, generally you do give a gift at both. If you are traveling, etc, you can spend less on the wedding gift, or spend less than you might normally on both gifts. Also, I wouldn’t say that all guests attending weddings need buy new dresses, shoes, etc, so generally it should only going to be like $1000 if you’re in the wedding…unless it’s a destination wedding or airfare from where you live is super expensive. 

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