(Closed) Gift vouchers instead of gifts…HELP!!

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

sorry, this maybe a stupid question, but what are vouchers?  I mean what are they for etc…?

  I believe that each couple’s wedding is their own and can be totally unique and anything they want it to be.  

I believe in being totally upfront with all the wedding info for my guests which would include gifts.  (word of month for gift requests/registry would just not work for me).  

If it were me, I would include a nice little sheet of paper or card stock with your gift requests to get vouchers rather then gifts – slip this in with your invite and other guest info.

I think your guests will be happy to know what you want for gifts and they wont have to ask around to find out were your registered or what you and your FI want. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I actually disagree.  I support traditional etiquette in not mentioning these things on invitations.  If you want vouchers, (I’m guessing this is basically gift cards or certificates) I think your best bet is to spread by word of mouth.  Of course, if you are having a shower, that sort of information is appropriate for those invitations.  Also, vouchers and gift cards etc, to which stores?  And if you are OK with gift cards to stores, there must be some things you still want and could use.  So why not register for stuff, so people who want to buy you a gift can?

Etiquette will tell guests it’s rude to not bring a gift.  But it will also say that it’s rude for a couple to expect them.  (What a little song and dance!)  So along with that, you shouldn’t try to dictate to guests what to give you (not to mention dictating that they need to give you something in the first place.)  It’s fine for showers, because that’s what showers are for.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I agree 100% with Tanya123

Post # 6
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773 posts
Busy bee

I would be horribly offended if I got an invitation asking me for any gift, but especially one stating you want vouchers instead of a gift.  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Tanya123, as usual, is right on target. I completely agree that you can’t request gifts on the invite and word of mouth is the best form of direction. If by vouchers, you mean gift cards, then I would register for a few things and then some gift cards. People should get the hint.

If you need ideas on what to register for, I always suggest big fluffy towels (it’s always nice to have fresh ones especially when you have guests… and people are always needing new towels), an inexpensive set of sheets (same reason as above) and also little household doo-dads that you will always need to replace or stock up on. For us, this is Brita filters, Swiffers wipes, Yankee Candles and baking sheets. All of these can be found at Bed, Bath and Beyond.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I also agree with Tanya! I wouldn’t be horribly offended by getting something included in the invite, but I’d talk about you like a dog. LOL I think it’s the dreaded T word.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We also have everything we need (have been living together for 3+ years now) and are registering at honeyfund.com. We’re putting that info on our website and probably invites (though we haven’t sent that out yet).

Post # 10
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Newbee

I agree with Tanya also, I think that you should register for some small things somewhere and then have your family and friends spread the word that you have most of what you need. I’ve known people to do that and it worked great.

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