- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
In late November of this year, I attended FI’s (then SO) sister’s wedding. He was an attendant (he walked her down the aisle), drove a very long distance to be at the wedding and had to pay for motels, ect and also helped her get the yard ready for her ceremony.
I found out the night of the wedding that my FI hadn’t brought a gift or a card.
Once home, I bought him a card to send from the both of us. However, he did not send it.
Now, I do understand FIs reasoning for not having originally given a gift, but since it has been several months without even sending a card I am a bit worried that this is making us both look bad. It is very true that FI and I traveled 900 miles to attend the wedding and that his sister was pretty rude and used us as slave labor. However, I don’t want to be rude in return, especially since FI’s sister is the type that is stickler.
I don’t know wether to leave it be, since I believe technically I was just FI’s plus-one and wasn’t specifically invited by name.
My other options would to be to go ahead and send a card, although I do feel like we should have sent it immediately if we weren’t doing a gift/money.
The third is to send them a gift card or present myself, although it is another expense, FI and I don’t share finances, and I am currently not working.