Post # 1
My mom, brother, and a few other relatives on that side have decided that they all want to pick up the tab for dfifferent parts of our honeymoon- we are so grateful for this and it’s going to be awesome! My brother has already booked a condo in a resort town for 6 nights and my aunt has purchased gift cards to 2 local restraunts- great! we’re so excited!
My problem is that my mom is EXTREMELY disorganized and always waits for the last minute to do things. She booked an entire vacation to St Martin for my family 10 days before we left. She pretty much always buys plane tickets less than a week before she has to go somewhere (one time she booked a flight for me and her at 6pm for 10am the next morning!) Of course she volunteered to buy our tickets!
FI and I are planners. We like to know exact details and know in advance. I am stressing out about this because I don’t want to not know when our flight is until the week of the wedding!
She won’t let anyone else do the tickets in exchange for something else either. The thing is is that she doesn’t have a lot of money, and tickets are only going to get more expensive.
Should I just suck it up and let her deal with the price increase? I ask her at least once a week to look for tickets, I don’t want to seem too naggy or ungrateful though
What would you do?
Post # 3
If you’re confident that she’ll get everything booked, and it just has to happen on her own timeline, then you kind of have to suck it up and wait. If there’s a big price increase, it’s really up to her to let that factor into her purchasing. Bringing it up over and over will just irritate everyone involved.
The only “acceptable” reasons to press for the tickets to be purchased sooner would be if the destination has a visa requirement, which takes some time to process (but it doesn’t sound like you’re headed somewhere that you’d need a visa) or if the resort is really remote and you’d need to line up a car service, which can’t be done till you know what time you’ll be landing.
Post # 4
They’re gifting you a honeymoon…. As much of a planner and OCD person as I am; I’d go bonkers if I was in this situation. If I was in your shoes; I’d touch base with my mom once to state that I’m worried about the flight costs and offer to pay for them myself and if she insists on picking up the tab and booking it; then I’d let it go and focus on other parts of my wedding.
If she’s insisting on gifting hte plane tickets; then the price increases are her responsibility to deal with. 🙁
Post # 5
I would purchase the tickets myself and give her the receipt for reimbursement. I really don’t think that’s rude.
Post # 6
What if sometime when your visiting her start talking about the honeymoon and how excited you are and then suggest looking at flights ‘just to see’. Maybe then you can subtly persuade her to buy them on the spot.
It might be worth a shot.
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Post # 8
@redheadem: I think this is horribly rude and pushy unless the person giving the gift has specifically asked you to do this. If someone said they were going to get you a specific purse as a gift, you’d not go out to the store, buy it, and present them with a reciept for reimbursement. If you did that to my mom, oh wow, that would not turn out well.
Post # 9
@fishbone: I would agree if it were a sweater or play tickets, but she needs to know the flight details. If something goes wrong, she won’t get to go on her honeymoon. I definitely think it’s ok to buy your own tickets in this case.
Post # 10
If she is paying, she gets to set the terms. Her terms are that she will book them last minute (which can actually SAVE tons sometimes).
If you do not like the terms of this agreement, then go ahead and book the tickets on your dime.
Do not provide her a receipt for reimbursement. That is horribly rude. She may not agree to repayment.