Gifting Etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

1) you get gifts based on how much you can/want to spend, not based on how much others spend


2) if it is in your registry you obviously wanted it.

Post # 4
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

@bebero:  +1… Maybe that’s only part of their gift.


Post # 5
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I have some rich friends, I have some poor friends. I expect their gifts to be different. I fall on the poor friends list so my rich friends know what to expect, but that doesn’t stop them from buying me gifts within their means. Stop cheating! Just be happy you have friends that want to buy stuff YOU already picked out! 

Post # 6
7030 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@likewoah:  It’s not like you bought them a car and they bought you a box of tic tacs. You bought them a luggage set and they bought you a luggage set. That sounds fairly even. (Even if you paid more, they might not know that).

And TBH I don’t think I ever compared gifts. With the exception of one couple who was my age and married very close to me, everyone married at a different time of life and was in a different financial position.

Post # 7
724 posts
Busy bee

Your generosity should not feel like it cost you something. That’s what you’re feeling if you’re calculating your net loss in the wedding gift exchange.

If that doesn’t help, just know that sooner or later you’ll realize that it doesn’t matter and you don’t care. It’s only some stuff.

Post # 8
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I understand where you’re coming from!! It’s human nature to feel a twinge of annoyance when something like that happens. But there are much bigger things to worry about, and there are way worse things that could be happening to you right now, especially at this stage in the wedding planning! So just shake it off and move on! 


Post # 9
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Is it for a shower? They may be giving you cash in addition for the wedding. 


+ all the stuff that everyone else said 🙂

Post # 10
1243 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not going to be critical of how you feel, because you are already aware that it’s a bit petty.

Just keep in mind that people give what they can afford, and you never really know the details of other people’s finances.  They might also throw a cheque for $1000 in your card, or as someone else pointed out, it may be just part of a gift.


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