Post # 1
Sorry for crashing the hive. I’m a groom. After reading Miss Lemonade’s fabulous post about gifting the groom, I wanted to throw the question back at you.
What gift would you brides would like to receive from your future husband on your wedding day?
I understand that a great majority will like more bling-bling but I’m looking for something fun and original.
Post # 3
My FI is an artist on the side and I would love for him to make something for the house. A painting…a photograph…you know something that has meaning for the two of us. But other than that maybe a couples massage for after the wedding.
Post # 4
mine is making a jewlery box for me. he is a really good carpenter and i dont know much more about the project than that. 🙂
Post # 5
I really think this is a very personal decision and since we dont know to much about you or your bride its kind of hard to say. For instance, some brides would love a game console while I would totally not since I dont play video games.
My suggestion? Do something out of the ordinary for you.
Have you ever written her a long heartfelt love letter? Nope? Do that.
Not a musician? Learn to play the guitar and play her a love song at the reception.
Can’t dance and refuse to at all times? Take dance lessons.
Is there something she loves to do but you cant stand? Plan to do it with her (tix to the opera, the ballet, cooking lessons etc)
See where I am going with this? Romance (to me anyway) is all about Gestures – big & small.
Post # 6
After the ceremony and reception were over, my husband gave me his gifts. The first was a letter of 100 things he loved about me! He read it to me and we were crying and laughing the whole time. This was fairly out of the ordinary for him and was an unbelievably special gift to me, totally eclipsed the beautiful bling he gave me afterwards. I would say go for sweet and sentimental over just a big gift…..
Post # 7
I would consider jewelry shallow and meaningless (but that’s how I view most gems anyway).
A perfectly planned night would be awesome, like go to a nice restaurant that you wouldn’t normally splurge for, then take her to a new movie she likes or like Habibi said, a ballet or musical or something. Then go home and draw her a hot bath complete with bubbles, incense, and rose petals! End the night with a massage, and some sweet nothings in her ear.
My FI did that for me as a special gift and I always gush to my friends about that night!! It meant more to me than almost any thing I’ve ever gotten (I say almost because I’ll be honest, my e-ring means a heck of a lot!)
Post # 8
My husband gave me sapphire earrings (that perfectly compliment my engagement ring) and a purse that I had my eye on but couldn’t justify the expense of.
I was thrilled with those gifts.
If you REALLY want something fun and original- do boudoir photos (ie sexy lingerie photoshoot- but in your case, nix the lingerie)! Many brides on here have had them done and put into a photo album as a gift for the groom. I’ve never heard of a groom giving such a thing to the bride- so it would definitely be original (and fun)!
A picture frame (maybe engraved?) that will later hold a wedding portrait of you both.
A locket- with a picture of you or a picture of a loved one of hers that can’t be there (grandmother, etc)- this locket could be on a necklace for her to wear after the wedding or on a pin that she could affix to her dress or bouquet on the wedding day.
I second the idea of something you create- a drawing, painting, photograph.
A honeymoon activity- hot air ballon ride, sunset sailing trip, massage, horseback riding, picnic on the beach/in the park/etc, tickets to a concert/sporting event/etc.
Post # 9
My husband got me a watch. Not fancy, dress watch – just a very nice Tissot that I can wear every day. It might not seem like a very exciting gift, but to me it’s another daily reminder of how thoughtful he is and how very much he loves me. Not fancy, no bling, just dependable and solid. We hadn’t planned on going on our honeymoon until a few months after the wedding, but he also set up a beautiful, romantic, and relaxing weekend away for right after the wedding – in conspiracy with my sister, who got us a limo out to the wine country after the reception.
He gave me gorgeous diamond necklace and earrings for Christmas, and I love them a lot. But the watch I wear everyday and the memory of that weekend are much better than the bling.
Post # 10
A letter. A very nice, very long, very heartfelt letter. The words on that paper will be one of her best memories of the day and something she will cherish and remember forever. She will save it and reread it again and again.
Keep in mind that if you want to give her a gift of jewelry, but are feeling some empty pockets because of the ring and wedding expenses, even every day jewelry (like a necklace) would be nice. I would be honored with a long letter from my FI and a little note that says: I wanted to get you something that you could wear often (or every day) so that every time you put this around your neck, you will think of this day and how very much I love you.
Post # 11
My husband gave me a really meaningful and amazing gift. My family is in the jewelry business, but I didn’t own any real pearls. My family knows a lot about high end jewelry so it’s hard to impress them! My husband did TONS of research on pearls, found out what is the best quality to buy, and bought me the largest pearl necklace he could afford. The gift was beautiful, but made even more so by the way he presented it. He explained that he got my pearls because he wanted me to have an heirloom piece that could be passed down to our future child. I cried!
Post # 12
A friend of mine has a husband who did a really sweet thing. He ordered a beautiful silver pendant engraved with her new initials from a jewlery store in a town they would pass through on their honeymoon (they took a car trip south). When they stopped in the town, he parked in front of the jewelry store and took her in – she had no idea what was going on and was so surprised and touched by his thoughtfulness. it wasn’t an expensive piece of jewelry – but the time he put into thinking of the gift and of that special way to give it to her was priceless.
Post # 13
We didn’t plan on exchanging gifts – our rings were gift enough. But on the morning of the wedding day, we did exchange cards (sent through our bridal party!) and he included a picture frame for me to put a photo in from our honeymoon. I feel like if you don’t have it in the budget or if you’re exchanging gifts because "thats what everyone else does", it’s ok to not do it. The note card he wrote to me was gift enough, and I know he feels the same about mine. Our rings are constant reminders of our day!
Post # 14
I definitely second BeachBrideT’s idea of a nice, long letter in addition to whatever else you decide!
Post # 15
I think it is so sweet that you are asking this! Just the fact that you are thinking about it so intently, means you are going to do a great job. I have no idea what I’m going to do for him yet, but I want it to be romantic and intensely thoughtful and meaningful to him.
I would prefer the same thought and care, and not necessarily bling or a big ticket item… just something that shows how well he knows me. For me, that might be a hoodie sweatshirt, a great art photo book from the place we are going to take our honeymoon, or anything related to snowboarding.
Having just said that, I think I’m going to use the art photo book idea for him! We’re planning on going to Africa, and I think it would be wonderful to buy him a book of beautiful African photographs.
Post # 16
my husband contacted linsner, my favorite comic artist and commissed a portrait of me. he’s still working on it but i can’t wait to see it.