Gifting when not attending a wedding

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
24457 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you really want to send a gift, I would just send a check but since you two aren’t close I don’t think it is the end of the world if you don’t.

Post # 2
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

If someone I know (and actually count among my friends, not just like a rando cousin I’ve never met) is getting married and I’m not invited for whatever reason, I usually like to acknowledge that with a card and a cheque or something small off the registry. If money in your circle is considered tacky, then a restaurant or bottle of wine would probably be a cute idea.

However, if you’re not close at all and almsot never see her, I don’t think anyone could be mad at you if you chose not to send anything.

Post # 5
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Depends on your family dynamic.  My mother would be pissed at me if I didn’t give a wedding gift to a first cousin, and I’d either give money, a gift card, or something random from Williams Sonoma or BB&B and have it sent to their house.  But each family is different.    

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