Gifting when not attending the wedding

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much would you spend on a colleague's wedding when you cannot attend?
    25-50 : (20 votes)
    47 %
    50-100 : (23 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 2
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would likely spend ~$50 on a registry gift, and send a nice card as well.

    Post # 3
    2429 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would stick to the $25-50 ballpark. I’ve sent a few gifts to former coworkers I was close with at my previous job for their weddings, and tried to stay in the $20-30 range. 

    Post # 4
    1499 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would send a gift around $50 and get a nice card and write a heartfelt note of best wishes.

    Post # 6
    2918 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would say $75 but I traditionally don’t give gifts for weddings, we give cash or checks. So I would probably send a check for $75

    Post # 7
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

    Are you attending the bridal shower?  If you are I would just do a really nice gift in the $75 range at the shower. 

    Post # 8
    1168 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    lynnwall23:  if you dont want to come off as cheap, minimum of 50 but I would say 75-100. You could get something nice for 50 off of the couples registry, or get a gift certifercate for a nice resturant. 

    Post # 9
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted 50-100 but really I’d stick to 50 for a coworker unless we were really good frinds and then I might bump it up to 75.

    Post # 10
    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    lynnwall23:  DH and I are gifting $200 total (with a check) to some friends whose wedding we cannot attend. We basically are gifting what we would gift if we were able to attend. If it would have been just DH invited, he would gift $100, but we are right outside of NYC (high COL area). 

    When DH and I got married, we got gifts from people unable to attend from $500 (from DH’s uncle so close family) to a $25 AMEX card (from a friend living abroad). We were happy and grateful for everything as we considered it a “little extra.” 🙂 So basically the couple will be happy  with anything you gift – just make sure you RSVP “No” on time! 🙂

    Post # 11
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    lynnwall23:  I couldn’t vote but would probably aim for the middle of the poll choices, around 50$. I think it’s a safe amount but remains reasonable since it’s a colleague you occasionally see outside of work, but aren’t that close to. 

    Post # 12
    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would do min. $100 for a coworker that you hang out with outside of work.

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