Post # 1
We’ve already purchased the gifts for our bridesmaids, groomsmen, flowergirl, and ring bearer, but… who else do we, the bride and groom, have to purchase gifts for?? Ushers and greeters? I’ve read that the parents are also supposed to get gifts- is this true? I know that my brother & sister-in-law didn’t give a gift to my parents, so wondering what really is supposed to be done.
I hate to admit it but while I’d love to buy a gift for my parents & present it to them privately… I just don’t feel like doing the same for my future in-laws who have not done anything to help with the wedding (no support or financial assistance or really even no kind words). I know that must sound horribly tacky, but my future mother-in-law fits the stereotype to a tee. So … do I really have to buy her a gift??
Post # 3
Aside from the BMs and Groomsmen, we are also getting gifts for our readers, the ushers, our officiant, and our program/guest book attendants.
My parents told us flat out to NOT buy them a gift. They are paying for a portion of the wedding and so are we. They know money is tight for us with the wedding/honeymoon, so we are not getting them a gift. FI’s parents (I’m in the same boat as you) will also NOT be receiving a present. It wasn’t until I had to have a serious talk with FI about 2months ago that his paretns HAD to pay for something because I was about 5 feet from the poor house. So they finally bucked up for our shuttle bus. So, no, I don’t think you need to buy them one.
Everyone is getting personalized cards though with photos of us. For example, I’m making photo cards for all BMs with photos of that woman and me throughout the years. I’m also doing the same for my brother who is a groomsman, my parents and I will whip one up for his parents.
Post # 4
you are supposed to get parents gifts I dont know about the others because we have no WP
Post # 5
I think different people do different things. I would get readers and ushers a small gift and a thank you card. If you do buy your parents gifts, I would buy his parents present too. Take the higher road, and maybe she’ll be a little nicer to you.
Post # 6
I bought my parents a gift but did not buy a gift for the inlaws as they did not contribute to the wedding. I plan to give the gift to my parents privately the morning of the wedding. I don’t want to give the gift publicly in front of my inlaws because I wouldn’t wanted them to feel slighted that I didn’t get them anything.
Post # 7
In addition to the wedding party we purchased gifts for both sets of parents. They were similar in style and essentially the same price. My parents paid for the wedding and his paid for the rehearsal dinner. If you really don’t want to get your soon-to-be inlaws a gift then definitely give your parents their gift privately.
We also purchased small gifts for the ushers, house party, reader, and pastor. My parents tipped him as well but we wanted to give a small gift from us.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I’ll now have to start my hunt for appropriate gifts for the ushers and greeters. If anyone has any suggestions for those let me know 🙂 I have no idea why it hadn’t dawned on me up until now!! …just in the final details phase, so I suppose a few more things I hadn’t thought about will come up!