Post # 1
How do I word what I want to communicate on my wedding website?
We are having a destination wedding and are not expecting presents (it’s expensive for guests to attend, we don’t expect them to spend extra money). But I also know that a bunch of people will give us gifts anyways (that’s how it always works).
I don’t want to wind up with like 8 toaster ovens or something, which is where registries come in. But how on earth do I link to a registry without implying that we’re expecting gifts?
Post # 3
On your website there should be a registeries tab. I would just put them there and not mention it any further. I’d register for necessities, though!
Post # 4
@AdriannaJean: tough question, I am also doing a DW, we dont want gifts either, we have been together for years and already have a place together. Also our guests will also be spending quite a lot to attend. I have a website and I am considering activating the registry page just to say no gifts on it. But then I worry people will see the page and think do they want gifts as well as expecting us to go across the world etc, without opening it. I would hope if someone does give us an unexpected gift it will be a voucher or something as all of our guests know we already live together.
Post # 5
I didn’t mention gifts on my invitation at all, so guests who want to know will have to ask my mom (who is the RSVP contact) and I’ve instructed her to explain first that we don’t need or expect any gifts and second, if they are insistent, that it will be difficult for us to take gifts back to Australia and that cash would be the most helpful thing to us because of the high costs we are facing with my spousal visa. However, I understand some people are not comfortable giving cash for whatever reason, so I did put together a small registry with a few token items and instructed people that they should simply have them sent to our home in Australia. I figure it all sounds so complicated that most people will just skip giving us anything at all.
Post # 6
The most polite thing is to not advertise your registry in any way. If people are wanting to get you a physical gift, then they will ask or find out by seaching the net.