Post # 1
In general I think you’re supposed to send out thank you notes within two weeks after receiving gift… However I’ve already started getting gifts… and the wedding isn’t until May 14! Generally I’d try to send the thank-yous now (right?) but the gifts are all being sent to my parent’s house in Washington State because the Fiance and I are currently on the other side of the country, but we’re moving to the west coast after the wedding…
Is it in bad form to not send the thank yous until late May when we head out West and actually get the gifts? Or should I have someone open things so I can start sending thank yous now???
Post # 3
Your guests know you are not where the gifts are, so are probably not expection and thank you right away. I would wait until you are able to open them yourself and then send them out.
Post # 4
I think that waiting is ok, since your wedding is actually pretty close. If the guests are sending the gifts there with the assumption that you will see them once you move, I would say just wait. I’m sure they’d want you to open them and be surprised anyway!
Post # 5
In this case, I would wait. They might feel weird if they knew that you haven’t seen the gift yet but you are thanking them for the vase or lamp that they sent. I’m sure that they would be very understanding, especially with all the distance issue and the moving afterwards.
Post # 6
My mom told me I couldn’t send thank you for wedding gifts until after the wedding. So the Fiance and I have been writing them and putting them in a box to be mailed after the big day.
Post # 7
I’d wait until after the wedding. And 2 weeks is a really short time. Isn’t the thank you card etiquette 3 months or 6 months or something? Plenty of time 🙂
Post # 8
No don’t send them yet. You are technically not supposed to open those gifts that are mailed to you until the wedding day or later. So just send them after the wedding.
Post # 9
I agree with Greatday. You have a couple months after the wedding to get the thankyou cards done. The only bad part about not sending them now is that it is nice to get these done and out of the way. Less to do later.
Post # 10
Sorry, people are wrong. You should open your gifts when you get them, and send thank you notes right after that (two weeks is fine). However, you haven’t “gotten” your gifts yet even though you know some have arrived, so I think you’re safe in waiting both for opening and for thanking. All that said, if I were you I would find out who has sent stuff and phone them or send them a little email that says “Hi, my mom told me your gift arrived and I wanted to tell you I’m so excited to open it when I go out there in May. Can’t wait to see you at the wedding!” or something. For me, this would be important for older family members and family friends and not so important for young friends. I find older people really do wonder if their gift has arrived or if you’re totally rude if they don’t get some acknowlegement, but at this point it doesn’t need to be an actual note.