Post # 1
Darling Husband has a young cousin, around 19, who just found out that she’s pregnant by her boyfriend about a month ago. They did a quickie wedding today, and as far as I’ve heard, they are having a reception dinner thing on April 30th, but I’m not sure yet if my husband and I will be able to go due to his work commitments.
Do we get them a gift for a situation like this? They’re registered for a handful of things (literally, maybe seven or eight things combined) at two places, but otherwise there haven’t been any showers, invitations, or anything beyond word of mouth. I’m guessing we’d just get them a little cash or something, especially with a baby on the way, since Darling Husband isn’t close with this cousin, or really the rest of the cousins on this side.
I have no idea if there’s any kind of etiquette for a situation like this, so I figured I’d ask you bees! Thanks!
Post # 3
I always give cash, but I think in this situation it’s probably your best bet.
Post # 4
I would give them the same gift I would give in any other circumstances. What would you normally do for a cousin of your DH?
Post # 5
@julies1949: She’s the first of this batch of cousins to get married so there isn’t exactly a “normally” yet (they’re all a few years younger than us), but for other friends/family it’s something off of the registry. In our area gifts are usually given through showers, so I just wanted to get some opinions for a situation like this where there is a barely-there registry and no time for any showers.
Post # 6
Are they living together? If so, a few nice things for there place (towels, mixer, and a small check) would be nice. Other than that, definatly cash is usefull!
Post # 7
Cash or gift certificates to department stores where they can buy either household or baby items as they choose.
Post # 8
I agree with red_pepper_gal: cash or the gift certificate so they can pick what they need would work best.
Post # 9
I agree with the PP’s that cash or gift certificates would work. They are just starting out and have a baby on the way, so I would think that would be most helpful to them.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone! We’ve definitely decided to go with the cash. =)
Post # 12
i went to a wedding like this recently – i regifted! oops – i gave them a $30 gift card from BB&B that we got for our wedding and i bought them a cute picture frame. figured that was enough.
Post # 13
I don’t think that the reason for the marriage warrants any change in whether or not to give a gift, but totally agree that in this situation cash would probably be the most helpful to them.