Post # 1
So…If your bridesmaids are your younger sisters (24 and 17) and your mom bought their bridesmaid dresses and is paying for their hotel room and flights to be at your wedding…do you still get them bridesmaids gifts?
My mom is the one doing all the “dirty work” for them….finding accessories for them, booking their rooms, ordering their flights, etc. So do I gift my mom or gift the sisters BMs gifts???
Also, normally the bride and groom give gifts to parents as a thank you, usually for paying for the wedding I presume…. what if they’re not paying for it? Do you still give them gifts? I plan on doing something for my mother, as she is the one person who’s helped me plan for this wedding. My dad flat out said, “I’m sorry babe, I just can’t help you guys with this wedding” (even though we never asked him to help) So, am I still obligated to gift my parents and his? Not trying to be cheap, just needing to know…so I can start looking for something.
Post # 3
I always thought you give the bridesmaids gifts for them being there and what not but if they aren’t really doing anything… maybe just a small something to say thank you for being in the party? And as for the parents, I thought you just give them gifts for being your parents and all that they have done for you through out life but who knows? I will probably give my parents something even though neither of them are helping at all.
Post # 4
I’ve been having some of the same issues about who to buy for and this is my advice based on what I’m doing (you don’t have to take it of course 🙂 ) but I’d say, get your sisters something small because they are helping you out regardless of whether or not they’re spending money, get your mom something nice, and get your dad something small. That way nobody can complain, you wont have to feel bad, but you’re giving credit where credit is due 🙂
Post # 5
Yes, I would still give them both small gifts.
Post # 6
Even if our parents weren’t helping us out with the wedding cost, we would still get them a gift as a “Thank You” for raising us.
As for your sisters, if they are your bridesmaids they should still receive a gift as a thank you for being apart of your wedding. The fact that your mother is covering all of their costs shouldn’t really have any bearing on the gift, imo.
Post # 7
Okay, I jsut went back and read my post, and realized how it sounded. I wasn’t saying they didn’t deserve a gift…just wondering as far as ettiquette goes. I didn’t want my mom to be hurt if I gifted my sisters and didn’t gift her or vice versa. I also didn’t want to make my dad feel guilty for giving him a gift (knowing that he already feels guilty for not helping with the wedding)
My mother is the one that originally said “You don’t need to go spend money on your sisters, they are already getting free dresses, and free vacations”
So I was just curious…. Thanks for the advice I’ve received so far.
Post # 8
I would just give each of them a little something..just to say thank you and show your appreciation for…having them in your lives I guess! You don’t have to spend a lot, you can get your sisters $20 necklaces or earrings to wear in the wedding, or cheap tote bags to carry stuff to your wedding for getting ready…if no gift for your parents, just at least a thank you card with something really nice written inside about how you are thankful for how they raised you and for doing all they did for you and that you’re excited to still have them there for you in this next phase of life..something along those lines maybe! (depending on your relationship)
Just SMALL gestures to show you appreciate each person 🙂
Post # 9
i would also give a small personal gift to your sister and parents