Gifts for BMs…what is reasonable?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
8707 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I got my girls gifts like I would for their birthdays. They were all my closest friends so nobody could have really suggested anything. I went with things that each girl (individually) would love. What does each one of them like??? Makeup? Cooking? Travel? Spas? Jewelry?

I would determine that first and then buy the gift for each girl. It’s great that you want to get them things they can use again and will actually like.

Post # 3
4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

gelaine22:  I got my girls gifts like I would for their birthdays.<br /><br />

+1, I don’t think there is any ONE gift you should get your ENTIRE bridal party.  My MOH loves Tom shoes but doesn’t have a lot because of the cost, so I got her some Tom shoes and a TOMs tshirt!

Post # 4
2644 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PPs, just get them each something different and specific for them (that’s what I did).  Bridal party gifts definitely don’t have to match.

Post # 6
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with the more personal option. I spent $100 on each bridesmaid. I wasn’t a fan of the monogrammed or personalized tote bag sort of gifts.

Post # 7
367 posts
Helper bee

I’m also paying for my 4 girls’ makeup and hair. I then budgeted $100-$125 for a gift.

I negotiated with a jewellery and got them each a pair of tanzanite and white sapphire earings (each different for each giirl) within that budget.

They all love jewellery and I know the earrings are something they can treasure and wear outside the wedding.

Post # 8
303 posts
Helper bee

I think I’m going to get my BM’s a bunch of different Alex and AnI bracelets. They have soooooo many with different images and meanings. So I’m going to pick a combination of bracelets that I feel best represents my friendship with each. 

Post # 9
323 posts
Helper bee

I’m already paying for their BM dresses(which they can wear again as they’re not obvious BM style)and going to get them each a sterling silver chain with a small heart with their initial engraved and my MOH(sister)goody bag on top of that with skin products(Clinique, Liz Earle).

Post # 10
858 posts
Busy bee

I found a home business that makes home made beauty products in my area.All my girls love this kind of stuff…So I got each; whipped body scrub, shave lotion/cream, face mask, lip balm, lip scrub, and body butter. Each in a super cute box with a letter. Suited the fragance to their liking! I am paying for all our accommodations and surprising them with a nice caterered breaky in the a.m.

Post # 11
2693 posts
Sugar bee

There’s really no rules on how much you should spend, especially since you’re already paying for their hair and makeup.  I’d say that you should spend what you are comfortable spending on them.  For my BM’s, I’m buying their hair/makeup and giving them jewelry for the wedding and custom-made tote bags.  The jewelry was actually very inexpensive because I happened to win a Blue Nile gift card last year.  Blue Nile also runs some great sales and I’m very pleased with their quality even for the cheaper pieces.  I went all out on the totebags – they are being custom made by a quilting company using T-shirts from high school and college.  I’ve known all of my BM’s since middle school, so each shirt represents something we’ve done together.  I think that will be way more meaningful than bathrobes or monogrammed items or any of the other usual bridesmaid gifts.  I think the total for the totes and jewelry will be about $150 per bridesmaid.

Post # 12
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m going the same but individual route for my BMs. They’re all get monogrammed jewelry/makeup/whatever pouches from West Elm, a piece of Kate Spade jewelry that goes to their personal tastes/style, a monogrammed robe, and a tote bag (the tote is more so I had something big enough to package everything in). In addition I just sent them all a Starbucks egoist card as a 10 day countdown reminder with their packing lists (we all live all over the country and are going back to our hometown for the wedding so I figured the GC could be used at the airport).

Post # 13
8587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not spending a whole lot on my girls, but I’m also paying for all of their expenses[dress, shoes, jewelry, earrings, hair & makeup] – so they really don’t have a whole lot of expenses involved. I will probably get each girl a $50 gift card to their favorite store.

Post # 15
1773 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Besides simple jewelry and a getting-ready outfit, I’m spending $50-300 on each of my girls.  I’m giving them each their individual gifts discreetly one-on-one at different points and the gifts vary based on relationship and how much ppl have done (so one is my sister & it’s kinda also a missed bday & christmas present, others planned a multi-day bach party or shower or have helped me ridiculously w/planning, while others are great friends, but haven’t done much for the wedding for various, fine reasons).  my bridesmaids aren’t the type to ask each other what they got and compare or get upset, especially since they’ll all be getting the “group gifts” together and I’ve been generous with each of them at different points over time and for the wedding, so they’ll each feel pretty taken care of without competitive concerns or jealousy.  

For their not-wedding-related gifts, I’m giving different girls: a massage gift cert, designer bag, nice/pricey jewelry in her style, nice non-pricey jewelry, a clothing item she wanted, gifts certs to favorite stores/activities/hobbies, 

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